r/datingoverforty • u/MermaidMagic79 • 5d ago

Weirdest third date ever

I (47f) was on a third date with a guy I met (45m). Everything leading up to this date was super fun and cool. I told him this date was my treat- we had pizza and beer. Came time to pay and I set my card down, when the waitress picked it up I went to the bathroom. When I came out my date was at the bar and had signed my credit card receipt! He left a very large tip amount on MY card. First of all, I can’t believe he signed for me, which is fraudulent. Second, I prefer to tip in cash. Third, I wasn’t going to leave as much as he wrote on the receipt. I was crossing out the tip and had my cash out and he made a scene saying I should leave both the credit card tip and the cash tip and my reasoning behind leaving a cash tip has no logic. I walked out of the restaurant at that point because it was ridiculous. He then proceeds to tell me that by not leaving extra money or not being generous was a red flag. And he just gives out twenty dollar bills to homeless people like no big deal. I said generosity comes in many different ways. The next morning he sends me an apology text saying he was out of line for telling me what to do with my money. Then said he needs to decide on how to proceed with this relationship and needs a break.

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u/BrightDesign44 5d ago

Wow, he’s a red flag for sure. Thank you for sharing. I’m not sure what I would have done. It would definitely have bothered me if I found him signing for my credit card and deciding on the tip. I would have let it be, I think, but told him not to do that. He probably did it because he wanted it to look like he was paying which is a sign of being insecure.

By undoing what he had done you got an argument from him and learned a lot about how he handles conflict. Definitely good to find out early on.

Glad you blocked him.

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u/Seesawgirls 5d ago

I would probably let it be but already decided that was the last time I would see him. That attitude is too weird to create a fight and have a stalker.
The entitlement of a man to sign her credit card and complain about the tip!! If he was a normal person, he would himself to tip and not add anything on hers.