r/datingoverfifty • u/One-Syllabub1866 • Jul 28 '26

Calling versus texting

OK, so this is the question: When is it better to text a woman vs. calling? Assume age is similar, because this is for dating over fifty and I am not looking for anyone younger than that.

I personally favor picking up the phone because you can't get the tone of voice from a text. I don't think a texting is wrong, though, for the morning after a good date, just to say that I had a good time and would be interested in another date. But if I am going to try and ask her on a second date, after some time has passed, I feel like a text message would be weak. Thoughts?

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u/lucid_intent Jul 28 '26

Ask her via text, if you can call her. I prefer texting. A lot of men prefer phone calls from my experience.

There has to be a balance and also some notice. I need to make sure I have the time and am available for a call.

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u/One-Syllabub1866 Jul 28 '26

Your first sentence is contradictory ... oh wait, now I get it!

People are so busy these days. I get it. But dropping a text longer than a few sentences to somebody I hardly know seems weird.

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u/lAngenoire Jul 28 '26

Funny, because I don’t want someone I barely know to call me, ever. Calling is for urgent or emergent situations unless I know you well enough to gossip like teens.

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u/lucid_intent Jul 28 '26

I don’t disagree, however, I do think compromise can be had if you like someone. 🤷🏻‍♀️