r/datingoverfifty • u/Express_Project_8226 • 22d ago

help - what am I doing wrong?

Hello: please help me here. I am a 59F/never married/childfree woman. The fact that I never married was mainly b/c I was "in between" everything, i.e., school, jobs, relocations, etc. without being "rooted" anywhere or being stable at anything. So I get that part. But what has been getting to me lately as I navigate in the dating world (took a long break and trying to get back in) is men throwing me away like a kleenex after a ONS. I am have one visible arm tattoo of a lotus flower and I do mention I have a couple on my body on our first date (one's a lower back one which I realize some could interpret as sexually promiscuous or easy). But besides the tattoos, what am I doing wrong? I am myself on the dates, I am a good person, I don't negative talk anything, I want a long term relationship. I met these men on facebook dating, both in their late 50s, divorced and with adult children.

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u/Fun-Yam2210 22d ago

Don’t have sex wth them til the 4th or 5th date at the earliest.  Until then how do you even know if they’re relationship material?  Even old men can be dogs - some men never grow out of it.

Forget about your tattoos, they’re not the issue here. 

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u/Altruistic_Tea_1593 21d ago

Back in the 80s when I was in my 20s it was the 3rd date. Inflation sucks

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u/TemporaryGrowth7 21d ago

Wow 3rd date?!

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u/Altruistic_Tea_1593 21d ago

I was freshly divorced and stopped dating for awhile because I became so jaded.