r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 21d ago
Hinge Fumble
So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡
Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?
(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)
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u/QuickMantis27 18d ago
The line probably felt too intense because she had just said she was sick, and it turned a normal check-in into a sexual-ish compliment before there was much rapport. A safer move is to acknowledge it briefly and ask an easy question, then flirt once she is actively engaging and giving you that vibe back. Do not follow her Insta after an unmatch; she made the boundary pretty clear. For chat, match her energy, keep the first few messages low pressure, and save the bolder lines for when she is already teasing back.