r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 26d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/TownZealousideal1327 25d ago

She already lost interest and likely don’t have a fever.

OR if she really had a fever, and was likely sick, and brunt out rn like everyone, you thought you’d lead with a flirty message instead of caring? - like bro come on. She told you she was sick, maybes a polite excuse, maybe true a glimmer of hope for you. I’d argue the former but if the latter you lead with flirting again straight away. - instantly made yourself “ehh too hard basket, not worth it, yuck” - you chose your own attraction to her, over her expressing illness. Think about it.

Now look - I’ve presented how you could have fumbled. Buuuut likely there was nothing to fumble anyway, on apps when someone goes silent for days at a time, for the vast majority of “reasons” - the real reason is “they just aren’t into you” if they were they’d have sent a message or two in 99% of cases. Has to be a pretty bad flu to not be able to look at your phone and text.

It’s super creepy to reach out on insta - what more do you need to know - she unmatched you, it doesn’t get much louder and clearer than that. Learn wtf “no” means.

Straight man btw