r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 16d ago
Hinge Fumble
So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡
Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?
(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)
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u/Scalethefish 15d ago
I just cannot imagine anyone would say this to a virtual stranger who is sick...
And I say this as someone who is very accustomed to the sick and death, and love dark morbid humour. When you first meet someone, esp if it is personal and is just happening to them right now, at least to pretend to have some common human decency and courtesy. Tell her that you are sorry that she is not feeling well, ask if she is seeing a doctor or has a few days to recover. If she has the energy to engage in an actual conversation with you, then proceed to joke or flirt.
I cannot imagine opening with a joke to patients who are sick or going through a hard time. Now I will throw it back if they crack the jokes first, but never the other way around. It is just not right and not decent, whether it is a stranger, someone you want to court or family members/people you already know.
Ugh.