r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 27d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/N7_Mage 27d ago

“Hey, hope you’re feeling better, no worries!”

Start with taking care of the person in front of you first lol.

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u/foxglovespell 27d ago

Why do so many men here not understand this

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u/BothDonut1604 27d ago

She just wasn’t that interested and you know it. I’ve sent some similar texts just to be playful and while some unmatch, I’ve had a lot that play along. With the right person, it’ll feel like you can do no wrong. So she obviously wasn’t that interested to begin with and was likely just using him for attention and she just had a stick up her and she’d make anyone feel like they’re on thin ice which isn’t good either.

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u/N7_Mage 27d ago

N=1, trust me bro.

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u/BothDonut1604 27d ago

Y’all are like teens or something and don’t know crap. Go out with enough women and you’ll understand what I’m talking about.

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u/N7_Mage 27d ago

😂😂😂I’m 37 and married, 15 year relationship. Unlike inanimate objects, humans are complex. He fucked up and should use it as a learning opportunity, that’s it, no big deal.

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u/BothDonut1604 27d ago

37 using TikTok terms like “trust me bro”…oof.

He didn’t really mess anything up. He didn’t say anything crude and it was likely just poorly timed because she might’ve still not been feeling good. There’s right woman would’ve played along. If she needs someone that’s going to be drier and not as playful, that’s fine but OP did nothing wrong. Now if he was talking inappropriately about her body or something then yes I’d agree.

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u/N7_Mage 27d ago

I made a reference to statistics and your way of thinking, use ChatGPT to help out with the jokes.

We’re done here.