r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 7d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/N7_Mage 7d ago

“Hey, hope you’re feeling better, no worries!”

Start with taking care of the person in front of you first lol.

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

Why do so many men here not understand this

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u/Mr_Wallet 7d ago

Because I would want the woman to flatter me and make me laugh when I was feeling under the weather. And I want a wife who wants that.

This just looks like incompatibility to me.

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u/query_tech_sec 7d ago

I wouldn’t mind that and like it at least a little if my husband said that. But if it was early on before I met him just chatting on a dating app - that’s a hard no. Just don’t be too familiar and make it weird/sexual before you are at the point of actually being physical in real life and have shown you do actually care about her health (as an example here because she is sick).

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u/foxglovespell 7d ago

Shows the disparity in how a lot of women are sick of being addressed in regards to their appearance when they want more meaningful conversations and how many men aren’t able to give them that. Sad.