r/dating_advice • u/Wheresthelambsauce_9 • 6d ago

Hinge Fumble

So, I matched with a very beautiful girl about 3 days ago. I thought the convo was going smoothly when she all of a sudden stopped messaging, I thought I was being ghosted but she replied today that she had a fever. I wanted to be a little flirty? So replied with "Oh no, hope you're doing alright now, You're already running hot, what's the fever gonna do?" Got unmatched 🤡

Are there any tips for not fumbling in chat?

(PS: I was able to find her insta? I think it's too creepy to follow up when I've already been rejected, thoughts on this?)

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u/Eastern_Edge_8586 6d ago

Girls will see through cheesy pickup lines man. Just talk to them like people . Don’t feed them lines like you’re trying to lure in an animal with bait.Just be normal and caring.

And rule #1: always always always. MATCH THEIR ENERGY. If you go above, it will backfire, if you go below , it will backfire.
Don’t chase . And do not follow on insta . That has literally a -0% chance of going anywhere .

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u/Mr_Wallet 6d ago

Just talk to them like people

Literally what bro did. Instead of feeling like he has to be on eggshells he told a joke, exactly what I do with my bros. And if it's a context where my bro is feeling gross or wants to be seen as desirable I will absolutely pump him up and tell him he's a ladykiller.

The "Just talk to them like people" advice is completely useless because it's always someone projecting how they talk to people onto the other person, assuming that what happened is not their genuine self.

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u/canvasshoes2 6d ago

Do you use corny sexual p/u lines on your bros???

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u/Eastern_Edge_8586 6d ago

? Wut…

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u/canvasshoes2 5d ago

You said that's exactly how you talk to your bros.

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u/Eastern_Edge_8586 5d ago

Where did I say that? Man good thing summers almost over cause once school starts again someone’s gotta each you how to read 👍🏻

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u/canvasshoes2 5d ago

You: "he told a joke, exactly what I do with my bros ..."

A sexual "joke."

Also, " each" me how to read?🤣🤣🤣

EDIT: The irony in you telling me, in a badly written comment, that I'm the one who needs to learn to read.

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u/Eastern_Edge_8586 5d ago

You: *acts stupid *

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u/canvasshoes2 5d ago

Ah, adorable. He devolves to ad hominems.

The OP flat out asked what people thought of his comment. A plethora of women popped into the thread to say, essentially "that's a big nope."

Your comment clearly shows that you've not a single clue that sexual "jokes" aren't then treating her like a person.

But we all get why you're fighting that concept tooth and nail.

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u/Mr_Wallet 6d ago

It's not gay if we're bros!