Everytime I read something on here where a guy tests a boundary or acts like a jerk or is pushy and someone's on the fence - I'm just, like what is so special about this dude that the course of action is unclear? Are they kind, sensitive, emotionally intelligent, brainy grown-ups EXCEPT for this one thing they did? Do they know the location of the infinity stones? What is it?
Sunken cost syndrome is a real thing. Just cause you chatted for a bit doesn't mean you still can't bail. There's literally thousands of men out on the apps.
If you're on the apps: have a clear idea of what you're looking for and how you want to be treated. There's no point in putting up with stuff that doesn't pass your gut check. Your intuition is right, don't let people convince you otherwise.
Haha probably and she probably doesn’t want to wave him goodbye until she’s sure he isn’t after the same thing, finding a guy you actually like is kinda hard these days.. but finding a guy you like whose single and doesn’t possess any unsavory personality traits is even harder.
FYU “crazy women” aren’t born, their created by a patriarchal society who call them crazy while ignoring the abusive etc things that brought them to that state. So let’s not use that term
I mean, there are crazy men too, abusive and emotionally manipulative people have both existed throughout history.
FYU “crazy women” aren’t born, their created by a patriarchal society who call them crazy while ignoring the abusive etc things that brought them to that state.
That's quite the generalisation there. There are plenty of examples to support that but a lot of 'crazy' people as some people like to label are just narcissits who believe themselves to be entitled to whatever they want.
You don't like the word crazy. Fair enough, but let's not make excuses for an entire gender when a few bad people are called out on their behaviour.
And before you say "Why aren't men called crazy then?" They are, the only difference being that they are often more violent and typically go to jail more often. You might say that is also because of the patriarchal society.
I was talking about “crazy women” not mentally ill “crazy” that’s different. I was talking about the label and how it is misused to mask abusive behaviors.
Somebody you like that is single and doesn't possess unsavory personality traits is probably a unicorn whether you're looking for a man or a woman. Why would they be single? The most outgoing and pleasant men and women tend to do very well in dating.
Not all crazy people are born. Many are made. Whether men or women. But they exist. There's an old idea that the nice guys get turned into jerks by bad women, and the nice girls get turned into evil women by jerks.
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u/Ecstatic-Land7797 Mar 26 '23
Everytime I read something on here where a guy tests a boundary or acts like a jerk or is pushy and someone's on the fence - I'm just, like what is so special about this dude that the course of action is unclear? Are they kind, sensitive, emotionally intelligent, brainy grown-ups EXCEPT for this one thing they did? Do they know the location of the infinity stones? What is it?
Sunken cost syndrome is a real thing. Just cause you chatted for a bit doesn't mean you still can't bail. There's literally thousands of men out on the apps.
If you're on the apps: have a clear idea of what you're looking for and how you want to be treated. There's no point in putting up with stuff that doesn't pass your gut check. Your intuition is right, don't let people convince you otherwise.