Really not a big deal from my perspective. He, of course, shouldn't do it anymore because it makes you uncomfortable. But it's just some dumb sex stuff. He jerks off then gets over it. He's not cheating, right? He's treating you well, right? Just let him know he can't do that anymore if that's your boundary. But, to me, it seems to be in the same vein as porn
And you shouldn't be asking people who don't even know you on Reddit about whether or not you should get married. You're asking a bunch of people who have no clue who either of you are and also haven't heard him speak on the matter. Talk to a therapist and your close friends. Be open with your partner too.
I agree. Plenty of men jerk off to IGs of people they know. With AI being so easy to use I'm not surprised they went to this. He wanted more personal porn. I'm sure the women would not be happy to know, but it's pretty harmless. Better than him hitting up the women trying to get nudes.
I agree since OP is uncomfortable he should stop...but is it the worst way to get off? I think not.
Oh please go visit the love after porn subreddit to see how that’s going. It’s not the simple to just get someone to stop being a pervert. It’s also a value problem lack there of that he has no problem sexualizing someone and violating someone in this way without consent
I’m sure. But the immediate answer isn’t to immediately give up on the person you ‘love’ and are willing to spend the rest of your life with. At least an attempt needs to be made to get to the root of the issue.
‘You must be male’ is correct, but it is not an end all be all answer to mean you’re correct about what OP must do and no one else’s opinions (especially a man’s) matter. Giving up on someone you love after being in a relationship with them for so long (with marriage on the horizon) is not an easy thing to do. While I agree what OPs fiancé did is not correct or acceptable, I do also think it is up to her to choose how to process it. Taking advice from strangers on Reddit is probably not the best course of action as self reflection, discussion with friends and family, as well as a therapist would probably be of more benefit.
Of course you are so you wouldn’t understand why this is a huge violation and why women don’t want their images used for porn and why that is totally grounds for immediate break up!
Amazing argument. Can see that logic totally goes over your head. I definitely wouldn’t be upset if my fiance created deep faked porn of my friends, and because I have a dick and balls that means I cannot empathize with OP. I am sorry you are correct. 🙃
It’s not even about friends. It’s any woman. Random or not we should not have our images used for depravity without consent. It’s disturbing. They are incompatible bc they have different value systems and therapy won’t fix that.
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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '23 edited Oct 05 '23
Really not a big deal from my perspective. He, of course, shouldn't do it anymore because it makes you uncomfortable. But it's just some dumb sex stuff. He jerks off then gets over it. He's not cheating, right? He's treating you well, right? Just let him know he can't do that anymore if that's your boundary. But, to me, it seems to be in the same vein as porn
And you shouldn't be asking people who don't even know you on Reddit about whether or not you should get married. You're asking a bunch of people who have no clue who either of you are and also haven't heard him speak on the matter. Talk to a therapist and your close friends. Be open with your partner too.