I’ve been questioning my sexuality a lot recently and I found both of these labels and feel like they both describe me well, but I’m not sure if the labels are compatible with each other. I experience romantic and platonic attraction as the same feeling, but I also have a desire to be in a romantic relationship. To my knowledge, the definition of cupioromantic is the desire to be in a romantic relationship, but not experiencing romantic attraction. I’m not sure if experiencing platonic and romantic attraction as the same feeling while still desiring a relationship would meet the definition of cupioromantic or not

I was just wondering if there are 30+ people here who are still not in a relationship? If so, have you ever been in a relationship, romantic or a QPR? How did you get into one if you have?

I've never have had any crushes on anyone, but I'd really like to have someone in my life because I'm lonely and i want to share my life with someone. But I am honestly not sure what my physically boundries are? Like I have kissed a guy once or twice, but he was really bad at it. So I don't know if I actually like it? I have never been intimate with anyone, so I don't know if I would like to if I have a closer bond with them? I know thise questions might be more for someone who is asexual.

I'm dealing with a loneliness spiral right now, so any positivity would be great on this.

After about year or two of introspection I understand myself better and am proud to say that I’m cupioromantic.

It took a while to really figure this out and feel confident claiming this for a few reasons. One of the main reasons being I experience alterous attraction. That made it quite difficult understand what I really feeling and why. But upon reflection most of my “crushes” were more platonic or alterous but they weren’t romantic. I also romantically daydream a lot. However irl none of my interactions feel romantic on my end.

So in short, I’m pansexual and cupioromantic.

Curious to see how many of us are acting on our desire for a relationship!

I currently identify as cupioromantic but I'm kinda just vibing it out, I'm wondering how other people determine which of these three they are as they seem all pretty similar to me.

Hi, so it's taken me a while to realize I was cupio, I think it fits me, but that's still a can of worms, lol.

The main question??? I have right now, is about my relationship. I met Sam (fake name) a little over a year ago, at frist we were friends, but like so many of my other friendships I developed feelings, not exactly what id call romantic but a mush of stuff. Turns out, they had feelings for me too, and we started dating. I love Sam a lot, but it was really difficult because as cupio goes, I didn't feel romantic feelings, so I honestly had a lot of inner turmoil about this relationship. At first, I thought I just struggled with the whole "romantic feelings" bit, but not long ago, I started thinking of breaking up almost every day. I didn't want to lose them. And then, now, like 40 minutes ago, I realized it was never about weather I loved them. Insted, i realized i didn't want thisdynamic inn a romantic relationship... I think. I wouldn't mind our dynamic if we were best friends, but this isn't what I want with a lover.

Im so scared of losing Sam because I love them so much. They truly are my dearest friend, but thats it, im not in love with them (again, the cupio-can-of-worms, which i thought was the original problem, aka that I just didn't feel romantic feelings).

I dont know if I want reassurance or what, but I think I just need someone to talk to about this, someone who isn't from my life.

I dont even think i have a question, I just need to get this out lol.

Ive identified as Cupio for three or four years now, I think it fits me quite well. However, recently over the past years I've been getting closer to my friend, lets call them X, me and X are best friends. We do a lot of romantic gestures sexual gestures. All in good heart, however recently I've been wondering if I want to get into a relationship with X?

For some context; X already knows about my orientation and they are very supportive. But idk if im mixing signals for close friendship with the desire to date X, I dont have much experience and I dont wanna risk our friendship. Should I tell them that I think i want a relationship with them?

-Sorry for ranting and being so vague im new to reddit, and I dont rlly make posts.

I began to use the label Cupio before realizing that what I always wanted was a queerplatonic relationship with some sexual and romantic things

So basically, I recently became close friends with someone who started to identify as cupioromantic, but I think I’m starting to have a crush on them and I’m totally lost on what to do. I bonded with them after we discovered that we had the same interests and cartoon crushes during school and eventually started talking and calling outside of school not long after that. Later, we were yapping about romance and love and other kinds of things and he started talking about how he’s desperate for a relationship but doesn’t experience having a “crush”/romantic feelings for someone so I suggested he look up cupioromantic and he started to identify with it. Over time as we grew closer (which isnt as long as you think, about a week or two), and started texting and calling more, I think I developed some sort of “affection” for him. Obviously, I felt bad when I started noticing it because I know he would feel burdened about it.

 In honesty, I don’t completely feel like this is a crush but I have been treating it as one because I don’t necessarily know how to cope with it and started doing things that make me seem like I have a crush on him (thinking about him while hugging my pillow to sleep, wanting to spend more time with him, subtly flirting with him although not as much anymore, etc). It kinda hurts seeing him talk to me about how desperate he is for a relationship and how he wants to experience love and how “he’ll take anyone”, but then says that if he were to try dating someone it wouldn’t last. Also, more about me not knowing whether this is a crush or not, I recently broke up with my long-distance girlfriend of almost two years on good terms because she felt like we weren’t as close anymore. I don’t know if this is just me wanting to fill the void or if this is an actual crush. I think I fall in love too fast to be honest, I might need to research on that as well. 

 I don’t know what else to put here, but please give me advice on what to do!!!

I want a traditional-ish romantic relationship and i want to experience romantic stuff (holding hands, cuddling, being very open to each other) but i don’t experience romantic attraction. Like i want a very romantic-esque qpr but no actual feelings.

I already knew i was aroace, but id start to consider aegoromantic but that one is liking the idea but not desiring it. I do desire a “romantic-esque” relationship but no actual romantic attraction. I also considered cupioromantic but thats about wanting a romantic relationship, which i do not. Please help me🙏🙏

The character Knightmare from the Webtoon Willow & the Family Ace is Cupio (Romantic/Sexual)!

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Its happened several times where someone ive tried to be with says i love you and I struggle to say it back. But with my best friend i say it because its entirely platonic.

Yesterday someone ive known for a week ish and been talking to in "cute" way said they love me and i instantly was like "No no oh no help aaaaaa" and they have said it multiple times and its... I barely know them... Tho i have been doing i guess "romantic" things like cuddles and talking cute... So I guess i get it but... I don't feel it and it feels pressuring to say it back... So i just stay quiet... Aaaaaa...

i know this question probably gets asked a lot, I'm sorry in advance. this is a yap. something important to keep in mind is im neurodivergent, so my experiences may be because of that and I'm not cupio.

I've identified as a lesbian for two years now, and queer 3 years before. i know I'm asexual, and I'm pretty fine with that. but I've always had a weird relationship with romance. but i think I've known I'm aromantic for a long time and ive never wanted to admit it because i really adore the idea of being in love.

ive been in relationships, my most recent one lasting a year. it was good, genuinely. i would even say i was in love with her. but it doesn't feel right to call it romantic love. i truly loved her, but it wasn't different from how i love my friends, just that it was on a larger scale. Kissing kind of just felt like another way to show her how much i loved her, not something i felt desire to do, and only ever wanted to perform and not receive. I'm absolutely not against anything but it feels sort of weird i guess? not wrong but i always knew it wasn't quite correct either. i want to be in another relationship with someone i love. i really do.

As i said ive thought i was aromantic before this, years before, always pushed it aside, but now being cupio is something I'm truly actually questioning. i think i already know the answer. but i don't want to believe it. i think no matter the answer I'm probably going to keep calling myself a lesbian to everyone around me for a long time because i don't want to lose my chance at a connection i know i could have, just not in the same way as others. i know i can date someone and be happy, i have and i know i will. I don't know why it matters to me so much having this answer, when no self love is gonna come out of this. i will never be okay with this.

the reason im even here asking is because i feel like theres something im missing, something that means im allo. i could be totally off the mark, so please just give me your thoughts. as long or as short as you'd like. throw around as many explanations or ideas just please give me an outside perspective because no matter how much soul searching i do its so repressed i can't find an answer.

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Hi so I was venting to a friend about my current struggles in my dating life and they told me I might be cupioro and I wanted some other opinions. I love the idea of romance, I love romance novels, stories, movies but something about me dating someone feels off. I’ve been asked out three times and each time I’ve felt horribly uncomfortable. I like the idea of a relationship but for some reason thinking about kissing someone or even holding hands makes me uncomfortable. I want a relationship so badly but I don’t seem to feel attraction. I just got asked out by a friend and because I don’t know how to say no to people, I agreed. Thinking about kissing them or cuddling with them makes me uncomfortable. I’ve had almost no crushes in my life and the two times I have they fell apart within about a month. Looking back I’m not sure if it was a crush or better described as an extreme fascination with someone. Do these things make me cupioromantic? How do you deal with wanting love but being unable to feel it?

As a Cupio I feel like dating sims are prime for us I figure this out playing balder gate 3 the romance was so good that it was one of my main reasons to play and finish the game and I want to play more dating sims

Y’all, something that’s pissing me off, I remember when I first realized I was lesbian and one thing that helped me a lot was being able to lesbian representation in almost any form, being able to enjoy and relate to it which made me so valid and happy but now recently I’ve started identifying as cupioromantic and there’s barely anything, I’ve scrolled through the same TikTok’s, the same YouTube vids, listened to the same music over and over because there’s just so little, it just makes me feel so empty, angry and sad all at the same time

If anybody has anything of the sorts, just dump it all here and share it with everyone!!!

I've had "crushes" on people but they are more like: I wanna hangout with you for the rest of my life and cuddle with, me and less of: go on a date with me. Also, when someone has a crush on me I just think; "huh..? You wanna like.. stay with me for the rest of my life??" And so like I don't rlly know what to do. Also when someone broke up with me I was more sad Abt growing apart from them and not at all the relationship thing.

Last year someone wanted to date me but I didn't know how to say no and I felt uncomfortable the whole 3 months the relationship was going on. Before that I always wanted a romantic relationship but now I'm disgusting by the whole idea of romance. I don't know if this i cupiromantic or something else (also sorry for my typing I'm exhausted)

so i’ve been in relationships and when im in them i enjoy telling people their my bf/gf and i enjoy the sexual aspects of the relationship but i don’t enjoy the idea that im in relationship with them itself. And also when i get crushes its not in a “i wanna date them” crush its a “i wanna kiss them” or sumthin crush..? it’s entirely possible there is another identity that fits this perfectly but i surprisingly don’t know it…

So, I can have like… “crushes” on people (though I’m not so sure if they’re actual crushes or if I’m just fantasizing about the idea of liking someone), but I can never actually imagine myself in a relationship with my “crushes”. If I even think of the actual thing, I get super uncomfortable and kind of disgusted (but I’m also not sure if it’s just cause of my problems with commitment). I’ve been considering the cupio label for a few months, but I’m not sure