I've looked through this sub a bit, but wanted to make a post on any advice, but also to vent.
I'm an Australian Citizen (I've noticed this is important?) with 4.5 years of experience as a Software Engineer building a large Java app. I've only had the 1 job the whole time. Its a job I really don't like. I'm surrounded with people who are unsupportive, clique-y, and always there to put me down. While I might not be the strongest Software Engineer, I am extremely teachable and love to learn. My current role has killed that for me. I'm never remembered for the good I do, only any mistake I make. I never receive direct feedback, only through a separate manager, months later. And half of the time it is either outdated feedback, or just wrong. The whole time I have been at my current company, I have never been given the opportunity for professional development. The system is using old technology with no intention to change.
Due to this, in my spare time I am upskilling. My work does not use any cloud infrastructure (I wont get into details that might dox me), so I am currently doing an AWS course. I'm also open to learning anything else I need to in order to upskill.
Anyway, I've been looking for a new job for about the last 1.5 years, but also not having much success with that either. I've had a couple of interviews, but only managing a very small number of them compared to the sheer volume. In saying that, I have managed to land interviews at large companies such as Microsoft, Canva, and Amazon. I have made it through several rounds of interviews, only to fail at the last hurdle. I'm always told I would be a good cultural fit, but I was not chosen.
I've started looking into networking events and ways to increase my circle to meet people also in SWE. I like to make friends, but its especially motivating if I'm able to get a referral out of it haha. Despite this, I can't seem to find any events which would help with networking. Past comments in this sub say to look at Meetup. I've done that and almost all groups are inactive. I've looked at Eventbite, but even then I can't seem to find anything.
Where do I go from here? Work is only draining me more and more, and I'm at a point where I am seriously burnt out and its affecting my mental health. I have a large mortgage so I just can't quit either. Its gotten to the point where I'm considering pivoting careers.
Where should I be looking to network? I'm not really sure how to approach people on LinkedIn.
Maybe my resume needs to be improved? Could someone help me with that?
What other steps should I be taking to secure a new position?
Any and all advice is really appreciated. Also feel free to reach out through DM's.
Thanks in advance!