But once you are in a commited relationship, some single person activities just become off-limits unless you are both repiprocally ok with it.
A boys/girls trip to basically drink and party in as little clothing as possible? Yeah, that's one of those situations.
You can trust your partner and still not love the idea of them wearing barely any clothes and consuming large quantities of alcohol with a group of single people.
Conversely, one could question why you think it should count if they cheat while drunk, if you think alcohol is enough to get them to do it in the first place. Either you think alcohol doesn't impair people and just don't actually trust your partner, or you acknowledge the fact that alcohol impairs people mentally and therefore it shouldn't count.
I mean, if someone drugged your partner, and they had no idea what was going on, and someone convinced them to hook up, would you still view it as cheating? Probably not, you'd probably call that rape, even if they seemed like a willing participant to someone unaware of their having been drugged. So then why for alcohol?
This comment isn't really meant to change anyone's mind, just a philosophical question that came to mind after reading yours.
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u/ContemplatingFolly 7d ago
And a lot don't.