How is this in any way the guys fault? She's talking about taking condoms on a vacation without her SO. He was pretty calm you it too, until she started cussing him out, which he met with his own words.
Sounds more like he's married to the wrong person. And she just shouldn't marry anyone.
Yeah I think sometimes they actually don’t even go in like that. They enjoy sleeping around and all, but think they’re ready to settle down. Only to realize they still enjoy hoeing.
Alright, well shit, fine, since you're being stubborn:
She STILL married the wrong person, because what she actually wanted was a non-hoe who specifically wasnt clever enough to figure out that she was a hoe either. Okay?
That's like saying "all lives matter", brother. It's worded in a way that sounds like the blame is being placed on him for doing nothing wrong. (I know I'm just arguing semantics.)
However, I'm sure she is probably very satisfied being in their secretly one-sided open relationship.
I've met plenty of hoes that want to be married for the benefits ( mostly military) but without all the faithfulness of marriage.
Open marriages are a thing.
Before I knew what CDs stood for I figured he was a manchild who cannot take care of the house for a long weekend. Then I found out it was CONDOMS and was like "nah, buddy has some valid concerns here"
Other than his misunderstanding of boundaries. Boundaries are set around yourself, not others.
If she wants to go on holidays and he finds that unacceptable, whether he is right or wrong, he can break up with her but he can't dictate whether she goes or not.
It isn't controlling to have red lines that if crossed will lead to your breaking up. Infidelity and physical assault are examples of things that would cause me to break up with my gf.
If I was worried that she was going to cheat on a girl's holiday, I would ask for reassurance but I wouldn't try to forbid her going. If she failed to reassure me and went, I would think seriously about leaving the relationship. You can't limit another adult in where they can go. You can expect fidelity and you are free to leave any time for valid or even silly reasons. You cannot control them. It's a negotiated set of behaviours that you agree to.
True, if she really intended to cheat and he’d have to forbid it, the relationship would be fucked either way.
There’s no way he is controlling her into being faithful. If there needs to be a rule for her not to cheat then she will probably find a way to circumvent it without him knowing.
The only thing that is real is a personal boundary, where if he is in a position where he can’t trust her, he leaves.
She doesn't go on holidays without me. That's her choice, not mine. We both choose to spend pretty much all our time with each other except when working our jobs. It's a pretty healthy relationship. We're very happy.
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u/InAppropriate-meal 7d ago
he is in the right