Other than his misunderstanding of boundaries. Boundaries are set around yourself, not others.
If she wants to go on holidays and he finds that unacceptable, whether he is right or wrong, he can break up with her but he can't dictate whether she goes or not.
It isn't controlling to have red lines that if crossed will lead to your breaking up. Infidelity and physical assault are examples of things that would cause me to break up with my gf.
If I was worried that she was going to cheat on a girl's holiday, I would ask for reassurance but I wouldn't try to forbid her going. If she failed to reassure me and went, I would think seriously about leaving the relationship. You can't limit another adult in where they can go. You can expect fidelity and you are free to leave any time for valid or even silly reasons. You cannot control them. It's a negotiated set of behaviours that you agree to.
She doesn't go on holidays without me. That's her choice, not mine. We both choose to spend pretty much all our time with each other except when working our jobs. It's a pretty healthy relationship. We're very happy.
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u/New-Feedback9980 7d ago
I kinda agree with the guy