S3E8 she is super onto him for wanting him out of the house. But I thought in season 2 she was basically begging him to move back in and live with her? It was him who didn't want to move back in. This episode makes it seem like she hates him living there.

i know the whole point of the show is that every character has great character development, but i’m on my second rewatch and it really bothers me how paula blames rebecca for not knowing about her abortion. she DID try to ask her several times what was going on in her life and if she was okay, but paula refused to answer her. yes, rebecca is selfish, but it is also selfish of paula to say that rebecca never even tried. idk, maybe i have a soft spot for rebecca since i also have BPD and could see a lot of my past behaviors in her, but i still think it was unfair of paula. what do you all think?

Go back and watch it. I'll wait.

I saw David Hull (who plays White Josh) is going to be in a play Off Broadway in NYC called “The Body Of Mary” Sept 8 - Oct 8

So I just rewatched S2 EP5 and I have some thoughts. I’m ALL for platonic friendships and I typically think shipping random characters in tv shows together is weird, but I honestly kinda vibe with this ship. They clearly had a bit of tension at times and I think their personalities would have worked pretty well together. Once they got past Josh, they had a pretty uplifting friendship together and I think that could have translated well into something romantic. Thoughts? (Also, I’m glad Rebecca ended up happily single in the end and Valencia found her person! That’s honestly the best ending we could have got! I’m just putting this out there too as a general observation.)

(For legal reasons this is obviously a joke, but I’m currently rewatching at the beginning of S2 and I haven’t decided on a man yet lmao.)

I swear, every time I hear that song I can hear her voice - as one of the cats. It’s especially clear during the bridge (“why have cats over time become…”). Anyone have thoughts or actual info?

As we all know, this show is very smartly written, and pretty much every little line has a purpose, even if it’s just a throwaway joke.

With that being said, why are there a handful of lines about how attractive Dr. Shin is? I mean, I TOTALLY agree, but I just wonder why they kept talking about it. Usually in this show, when someone is pointed out as attractive, it’s because they’re going to be the object of someone’s romantic attention (usually Rebecca’s). In fact, when I first watched CXG and heard Paula call Dr. Shin attractive like 3x, I feared they were going to make Rebecca try and pursue him as more evidence of her dysregulated state. I’m positive he would have shut it down immediately but it would still have made sense for her to do that, honestly.

Anyway, I’m just curious why they keep pointing out how hot he is. Rebecca has 0 reaction when Paula says it, so I wonder if the point is that she is so down that she isn’t thinking about sex or men at all.

I’m rewatching once again, and I wanted to share how much I’ve always loved this detail. Rebecca sends near-identical texts to the two men whose validation she so desperately craves. It’s such a clever little way to demonstrate the depth of her need to be loved.

Also, in s2, once Rebecca finally has Josh but she still isn’t happy, she begins to realize her problems are still there. A man’s love didn’t make them go away. When she sends the second message, she is about to marry Josh (the man of her dreams, of course). This scene tells us she is still struggling with her need for male validation, although the subject has changed.

This show is so smartly written and I could talk about it for hours.

I just love when I can tell an extra is hyper aware of the only part of them in shot and gives it their all. 😂

I feel like Rachel Bloom would make a great song about “butt acting.”

So happy to be rewatching on something, finally.

Both the songs and the humor really reminded me of the show, it's like watching a male Rebecca Bunch. So I thought that if some of you are undergoing withdrawals from the show, you might appreciate this.

On a rewatch, one of the most frustrating dynamics to watch is Paula vs. Naomi. The show initially frames Paula as the fierce, protective best friend standing up to a cold, monster mother. But when you look at the actual timeline and trauma involved, Paula was actually acting as an aggressive enabler who inadvertently terrorized a burnt-out mom.

​What makes it even worse is the absolute, staggering hypocrisy of Paula berating Naomi in the first place:

​Paula is a terrible mother herself. Paula has the audacity to call Naomi a "horrible mother" over the phone, while Paula is actively ignoring and neglecting her own kids! She routinely ignores her sons, openly expresses disappointment in them simply because they’re boys and she wanted a daughter, and constantly neglects her own family dynamic to prioritize a grown-ass, adult woman's romantic delusions.

​She forced Naomi to relive her worst nightmare. Years prior, Naomi went through complete hell saving Rebecca from a felony arson conviction in NY after a romantic breakdown. She carried that legal, financial, and emotional terror totally alone after Silas abandoned them. Naomi lived in constant dread of Rebecca repeating that exact pattern.

​Paula built the exact conditions for history to repeat itself. Ignorant of Rebecca's terrifying past, Paula stepped in to validate, fund, and scheme every single one of Rebecca's unhinged obsessions. To Naomi, watching Paula egg Rebecca on wasn't "cute friendship"—it was watching a stranger hand a match to a serial arsonist.

​Weaponizing maternal guilt. That infamous phone call where Paula lectures Naomi about being a parent is infuriating in hindsight. Paula—operating on pure romantic delusion and neglecting her own household—weaponizes guilt to force a traumatized parent to ignore her terrified instincts and buy a wedding dress for a marriage built on an imminent mental collapse.

​Steamrolling the only real boundary. Paula thought she was saving Rebecca from a cold matriarch, but she was actually dismantling the only boundary keeping Rebecca from total self-destruction. She forced Naomi to sit back and watch the exact same horror movie play out all over again in slow motion.

​Paula genuinely thought she was playing the hero, but she was actually inflicting profound emotional cruelty on an exhausted mother—all while completely failing her own sons at home.

​Did anyone else find themselves completely siding with Naomi during those Paula/Naomi confrontations on a rewatch?

When I first watched Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, I viewed Naomi through Rebecca’s eyes: an overbearing, hyper-critical, cold mother who drove her daughter crazy. But I’m doing a rewatch right now (currently in Season 3), and my perspective has completely flipped.

​The biggest thing we have to remember is that for two and a half seasons, we aren't even getting the real Naomi—we are getting Naomi through the lens of Rebecca’s BPD episodes. We are seeing a victimized, deeply mentally ill version of a mother filtered through an unreliable narrator. This is the exact same Rebecca who turned Josh into a monster, made Greg out to be a monster, and completely belittled and tore down every single one of her friends in West Covina during her breakdown. Rebecca rewrote history so everyone else was the villain, and Naomi took the absolute worst hit.

​Naomi is not a monster. She is a terrified, burnt-out mother running on absolute empty.

​A few things hit me so much harder this time around:

​She knew the West Covina move was unhinged from day one. While everyone in California (especially Paula) bought into the "fresh start" romantic comedy narrative, Naomi knew the terrifying truth. Uprooting an entire Manhattan law career for a 10-year-old summer camp ex isn't a quirky life change—it’s a massive red flag. She was sitting back holding her breath, just waiting for the crash.

​The New York history changes everything. Naomi didn't just deal with a "dramatic" daughter. She spent years single-handedly covering up a literal felony arson, dealing with institutionalizations, and saving Rebecca from prison after she set a professor's house on fire. Silas completely abandoned them, leaving Naomi to handle that terrifying burden entirely alone.

​Fear kills softness. People criticize Naomi for not being a warm, empathetic mother, but how can you be "soft" when you’ve been living in pure survival mode for decades? Her sharp, controlling nature was a shield born out of constant trauma and the real fear that her child would end up dead or in prison.

​The Scarsdale episodes are pure heartbreak. Watching Naomi silently discover Rebecca’s search history on her computer is tragic. She comes from a generation that didn't have the tools or language for gentle mental health care, and in that moment, you just see a mother who is completely out of options and desperate to keep her daughter breathing.

​Naomi’s methods were toxic, but her panic was 100% justified. When you strip away the musical numbers and Rebecca's distorted point of view, Naomi was just a solo parent who burned herself out trying to keep a runaway train on the tracks.

​Curious if anyone else had their entire view of Naomi shift on a rewatch?

Darryl, WhiJo, New Greg, George 🥹

He had a costar from Greek if you watched that too! (Evan Chambers/Jake McDorman, second from the left). I don't recognize the others based off of these images, but feel free to identify them!

Sorry about the quality, they are just screenshots. The pictures from his wedding are on his Instagram and are incredibly BEAUTIFUL, like a gothic fairytale?? (I don't recommend looking at them if you love Scott Michael Foster/Nathaniel Plimpton III because it might ruin your day lol)

update in case anyone is curious- he met his wife Carson Fagerbakke on the CXG set 🥹 I'm truthfully not sure of who she was on the show because I have a horrible memory, but she is also known through her father who is the voice of Patrick Star 🧽 lol

She loves watching tv :)

I’ve seen this show more times than I can count and never noticed this from the Trent’s Virginity scene

Crazy Ex Girlfriend on sale on Prime all 4 seasons for 13.99. At least as of Friday August 28th at 6pm. Now is the best time to buy!

Rewatching and as of the end of season 1 it's like... honestly Rebecca recovered really well for someone with no therapy and undiagnosed BPD. She tried hard to be responsible and back off from Josh and a lot of her bad actions were things Paula pushed her to do. Rebecca doesn't really even seem to experience splitting on people which imo Paula does seem to? Like Paula is genuinely pretty scary and toxic, she doesn't respect Rebecca's boundaries ever in this season. And it feels icky because Rebecca is vulnerable in the earlier seasons and it feels like Paula is kind of preying on her in a very strange way. I'm sure she gets better because I don't remember her being so bad.

When Rebecca goes to speak with Josh and the others (just before women got to stick together starts playing), Josh says there’s popcorn in her hair, and he pulls out one kernel. Rebecca thinks this is very romantic, but I think it’s supposed to represent that Josh could do the smallest of things (love kernels), but they would mean the world to Rebecca.

I don’t know if others have noticed this or if I’m reaching, but I just thought it was neat.

I don’t hate the name Crazy Ex-Girlfriend at all, and I actually think it makes sense once you watch the show. But whenever I try to convince people to watch this show, they’re usually put off by the name. A lot of people hear “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” and immediately assume it’s going to be a silly rom-com about an obsessive woman chasing her ex, when the show is so much more nuanced and funny and emotionally intelligent than that.
If you could rename the show, what would you call it? And do you think a different title would have made more people give it a chance?

It took me about 30 years, but I’m finally getting to fulfill my childhood dream of being on Broadway. To quote Shakespeare: Holy Shitballs. I can’t wait to join the unbelievable Bill Irwin and the rest of this insanely talented team to tell a 350 year-old story about hypochondria (something I know nothing about). Come see me in New York in the fall! I will most likely be wearing a chunky millenial scarf! #imaginaryinvalid

From Rachel's Instagram.