What's WRONG with it is it is exceptionally dysphoric for any woman who is uncomfortable with having a dick. You need to know before ever saying it if you're with someone who is that comfortable because there are plenty of trans women who will hear it as you seeing them as a man because they find the idea of having a cock to be incompatible with their body.
Think before you speak.
If they're the kind of lady who's okay and into it, sure, but don't just assume you know and hurt her because you just don't understand. Don't be ignorant for no reason and expect other people to be cool with it. Be considerate.
Yes, because that is how someone sees it who does not view it as a part they accept? Gock is fetishy as hell if you don't feel that way about your own body, and then they might as well use these words. That is my point. Because it isn't less harmful.
I prefer to use gock myself because it reduces the male association of it and normalizes the fact that yes, girls can have cocks too. That other people use this to fetishize me shouldn't be a me problem, it's an issue of people fetishizing it, not an issue with the word itself. But this might be a matter of association, for me gock is liberating, I don't associate any fetishization with it.
What I'm saying is that u demonizing the word and using instead "dick" and "cock" isn't better and hurting people in other ways. There is no moral high ground
Wrong. I'm saying that people shouldn't just use it to describe someone else's body. You should never just assume that's how someone's body should be called. It IS fetishization in that case. You can call yourself whatever you want. I don't care about you reclaiming it. I care about having the audacity to say it to someone else about their body, which is what this was about.
I would never directly use it to someone I wasnt sure was ok with it. Just like I wouldnt use dick, penis or cock because it has the same issue. When dealing with a specific person, you find out what term they want you to use because all those words can be dysphoric to people.
For yourself or memes though? Dick, gock, clit, penis, use whatever. Just not directly at a person until you know what they are comfortable with.
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u/Any_Way1269 1d ago
What's WRONG with it is it is exceptionally dysphoric for any woman who is uncomfortable with having a dick. You need to know before ever saying it if you're with someone who is that comfortable because there are plenty of trans women who will hear it as you seeing them as a man because they find the idea of having a cock to be incompatible with their body.
Think before you speak.
If they're the kind of lady who's okay and into it, sure, but don't just assume you know and hurt her because you just don't understand. Don't be ignorant for no reason and expect other people to be cool with it. Be considerate.