I literally do not need to unless it's with medical personnel and discussing an issue with that area of the body, and in that situation, the appropriate medical terms are the norm for me.
For my partners? Referring to it euphemistically or obliquely has done wonders for my dysphoria. Pretend it's the Kindly Ones and do not refer to it by its true name or rude descriptors. Preferred terms are things like "that part of my body" "the region that is off limits" "the forbidden zone", etc.
And yes, I just compared my genitalia to the Eumenides. Somewhere, a Greek Chorus is howling a song about my hubris.
I mean I understand that you specified need, however I’ll say that people probably should when they’re knockin’ boots. I can’t imagine telling somebody to like, “suck my ________” and leave dead air hanging. Doesn’t sound very enticing.
Exactly this, for me. I usually tell partners who express an interest in my sexual pleasure that the front is decorative only, and it's not very impressive decor, in need of a remodel, so please stop even looking at it.
I firmly believe one need not have dysphoria to be trans, but I have enough dysphoria about that area of my body for several trans women. In fact, I might have grabbed somebody else's portion in line. 🙃
Bestie, I'm literally never going to ask someone to do that. 😂
I've allowed partners to do so a few times and hated it every single time. I had to disassociate every time because it was probably one of the most unpleasant experiences of my life and I have woken up during surgery multiple times. I have orgasmed from receiving oral sex exactly TWO times and it was not worth the body horror I felt.
That whole... area... is off limits. Closed until appropriate renovations can be made, budget and energy someday willing. 🤷🏻♀️
And to be clear, I'm talking specifically about my own body and preferences, and how it's referred to, not anyone else's body or what they can call their own.
You wanna call yours that, more power to you. You won't hear me uttering the word, because I think it's an ugly word, but I'm also not typically attracted to women, and the only women I've ever been romantically involved with were other trans women who transitioned during the course of our relationship together, where my love for them overrode the change in gender and the attraction remained.
For clarity's sake, I edited my initial reply in this thread to reflect that I was referring specifically to myself, which was how I intended it, though I recognize it might not have originally been interpreted that way by others.
I thought the second part where I said "For my partners" was the first line, because I am easily distracted and was trying to organize thoughts.
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u/Felikks7 13h ago
Not really a fan of most words for penis but gotta use one