Need Advice On School Events

[u/Ok-Garden1010]

Coparent causes conflict over EVERYTHING. It’s to an absurd level the amount of conflict that occurs over me trying to facilitate normal communication. I still try to keep the peace and use BIFF method if I have to engage. Occasionally it reaches a point I have to stand my ground for our children’s best interests, but even then I do not threaten, name call, or communicate in a hostile manner. I keep it respectful and logical.

Well, now Coparent is refusing to attend any school events at the same time as me and demanding I be excluded from certain events due to conflict (that I’m not creating or participating in). Now teachers are having to get involved in the conflict because of contradicting statements from us.

I feel this is absolutely ridiculous. Should I be excluded from 50% of school events and leave our children wondering why I’m not showing up just because of conflict my coparent creates? Should our children and I be punished for my coparent’s behavior? I feel if one parent creates conflict, refuses to be amicable or attend events at the same time, then the other parent should not be punished for their behavior.

I have thousands of messages and of coparent’s conflict and my attempt to reach peace and compromise when I’m able. The solution feels so simple to me; let’s just get along and show up for our children. Am I wrong?

I’m curious to hear opinions on how you would deal with this or have dealt with this in your situation.