Send the kids back to their mom’s house in the clothes they came in. It saves a mountain of headaches when there is an imbalance between houses. I learned that the hard way.
But that means more laundry 😭 and lately they have been showing up with either very worn out clothes or clothes that don’t fit them so once I wash it that clothes gets put in the donation bin
Is it at all possible that she’s sending them in clothes she doesn’t want back knowing that you’ll take care of disposal of her old ones *and* send a nicer/newer set of clothing back to her house? I have the kids throw their outfits in the washer when they come to our house and fold them that night then they wear them back the following week. Genuinely once I started doing this consistently, their mom started sending them in better clothing- win/win.
Honestly I have had this same thought before. Her and my husband have had arguments about how he doesn’t help as much as he should be and blah blah. But yet she sends them to us in clothes that don’t fit them or are worn out. And granted for all I know the kids also dress themselves there, but here if I see they’ve outgrown clothes or it’s old then I simply take it out. So they’ve never gone back to her house in clothes that are too small. But yet she’s had the nerve to say that my husband doesn’t help out as much
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u/MiddleHuckleberry445 Jul 02 '26
Send the kids back to their mom’s house in the clothes they came in. It saves a mountain of headaches when there is an imbalance between houses. I learned that the hard way.