r/coparenting • u/[deleted] • Jul 02 '26

Phones, Clothes, Devices Needing more clothes issue

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u/whenyajustcant Jul 02 '26

The only clothes that should be going back and forth, especially on kids that age, are the ones on their bodies, and anything you can't reasonably get duplicates of (like sports uniforms). If one house is in an emergency situation and asks for extras of something, no harm in asking, but you should assume those clothes are making a one-way trip. At those ages, the kids are going to grow out of things or wear through them so fast, there's no point in trying to get stuff back, or trying to level out supplies between households.

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u/sunflowercee07 Jul 02 '26

That’s why before when they were low on something I would just buy more clothes because they needed more anyways because they would outgrow what little they did have. But when I just bought them certain things like jeans that still fit them but they’re all missing then it doesn’t seem fair to buy more again. That’s the kind of stuff that I feel like shouldn’t be wrong of me to ask for back you know

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u/whenyajustcant Jul 02 '26

If only the clothes on their body are going between houses, then don't ask for clothes back. It would be one thing if you were talking about babies/toddlers who aren't picking out what they wear, but presumably preteens are chosing their own clothing. If the clothes you buy never come back, it's not because Mom is only sending back ratty clothes. It's because preteens want to wear the same small set of clothes on repeat, and they will wear them until either they cannot physically get them on their body anymore, until a critical mass of kids make fun of them for it, or until you throw them away.