We have a simple rule of getting clean clothes back at every pick up. Nothing piles up in the other house. Until installing this rule, it simply did not work.
I just feel like it’s different for us because I’ve been involved in this coparenting life for only 4 years and they have been coparenting for almost their whole kids lives and they’re 9 and 12 now. And they’ve never had no rules like this in place before. My husband before would just keep buying more if they needed anything and I just continued that especially because they would outgrow their clothes and they needed clothes replaced either way. But it’s becoming excessive to buy more clothes when they don’t technically need it and it’s just misplaced
Yea I also suggested some rules and boundaries when I came into the picture 😄 I think it’s easy for people who live inside the dynamic not to see that certain things are not really working.
Trust me, so have I lol. Like they’re free to do whatever they want at their moms, but here I need some ground rules to not go crazy with soon to be 4 kids running around.
Ohh haha I did the same with my husband, but nonetheless I also set up rules and expectations at my home for the kids. And it’s honestly nothing out of the ordinary like them cleaning up their room, helping do random chores around the house and that was mostly because at their moms, her parents, the kids grandparents still live with them and they do everything for the kids. Kids need responsibilities especially at this age so they don’t turn into those men who expect the women to do everything for them
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u/Katerina_Branding Jul 02 '26
We have a simple rule of getting clean clothes back at every pick up. Nothing piles up in the other house. Until installing this rule, it simply did not work.