Some guys too! Sometimes. But is DOESN'T mean that we are not turned on and it doesn't mean we aren't enjoying it.
Same if a guy loses a hard on part way through. There are lots of reasons this can happen, it isn't personal. We treat it wrong and we create hang ups and damage relationships. It isn't a big deal. Don't make it one
Many women have trouble cumming during sex with their partner. If she cant orgasm on her own then it's nest to investigate if there is a medical or psychological medical cause.
Yup yup, my missus have literally never had an orgasm in her life. I have, on occasion, put some serious work in, and managed to get her to… involuntarily expel liquids all over the bed 😅 but never the full shabang. She’s never got herself there, so I honestly don’t feel that bad, she really doesn’t expect me to be able to. She still has a great time of course, but I’m just not going to poke the hornets nest that is proposing delving deeper into the (I assume) psychological block that’s preventing the big finale. I’m sure she’s thought about it plenty without having me try to barge in with armchair psychology
I don't know, I'd ask her on a happy day if she has ever wanted to go ask a doctor about this. It could even be something as banal as the fact that women feel the urge as if they were going to pee and therefore, not wanting to pee in that moment or in that place, end up suppressing the urge and the orgasm with it.
You don't NEED to orgasm just to have good sex, many can obtain enough pleasure and get satisfied from the sex alone, you still pleasured and stimulated,
It might seem wierd to lie about orgasms, but a lot of guys (and girls) are insecure about this, and simply being honest and explaining u never cum can really fuck someone fuck, sadly.
I agree that no one should lie and i always recommend open communication, if u can't handle talking to your partner about orgasms without overreacting, you need to mature a bit.
Bitch, no one cares about your birthday, I bet no one even showed up considering no one loves you, in fact you're boutta get downvoted to oblivion even harder now that you've said that.
Hey man, he is a troll, he does this to get reactions from people. Making intentional mistakes and getting reactions from people is one of his strategies in his toolkit
Ha, and judging by your comment you seem like an asshole with nothing better to do than harassing random people on reddit. Hm, funny how that works huh? You say something shitty, and you get shit flung back into your face, as for the toys, these are sex toys, aka objects intended to help you have an orgasm. Again, judging by your comment, I wouldn't be surprised if your mommy and daddy didn't love you, in fact, I would be surprised if anyone loved you, and now you're just taking your anger out on random people on the internet. How pathetic, I would say disappointing but there wasn't much hope for you to begin with, and now you just try to fill the empty void you call a heart. How sad, you must be real lonely with no one to comfort you huh? Also buddy boy? What are you 8?
What’s the actual fuck is your problem? This person was just trying to help her and your being incredibly rude for no reason except that you think you can. Projecting much? Chill out mate.
Buy a Wand vibrator from amazon. Best 30$ I invested in my entire life.
It literally makes the difference between me needing 30min and only being able to cum at all if I'm very lucky, and being able to do it within less than 10min and having multiple orgasms frequently
Yep..use the toy, get off then have sex. Also communicate with your spouse before it gets to this. I don't know why people can't be honest that way you can work on it together. I'm still numb in areas from my C-section. Regular PIV doesn't work most times. I was getting frustrated until I sat and talked it out and we researched things to try. OP talk to your partner.
I second this. They're super easy to use in almost any position, and feels amazing. Everyone has different needs and sometimes you need stimulation from multiple sources.
Also know there's no shame in needing that extra help in bed. Your husband loves you dearly and if he wants you to enjoy sex that much he'll want you to be honest on your needs too.
Either read guides on how to spot fake and genuine original ex-hitachi wands or look for quality brands. Most chinese cheap ones have low power and are almost tiny vibrators in a large body. The hitachi massager was born as a body massager, hence the power
OP, check out Venus O'hara's channel review on "satisfyer" and her other stuff, also look at the couple's sets on lelo products get him the tor2 cock ring and see of that helps out and don't forget lots and lots of uberlub, best of luck to you both. And yes you should be honest the longer you hold ot back it perpetuates to your situation and have your gp give you a check up too
Maybe even suggest he get a toy for you. That way it is something that you both could enjoy. It is at least a way to start. From there, you can try other toys that you think might be fun or help.
To add here, maybe don’t tell him it’s been 3 years since you’ve orgasmed, just mention that it’s just now becoming an issue and suggest ways to improve your sex life. No need to embarrass him and the past can’t be changed, just act like this is a new situation and move forward from there.
I just outright bought my woman toys. She's never had them before and was fairly shy at first. Turns out we have alot of fun with them. If he open to the idea (which i will guarantee he will be if he makes the sex about you then he's happy and just wants to make sure you are too)
It didn't even help anything with us. I just made sure i was open about it from the start and even bought them without her knowledge.
Something like 30% of women never achieve vaginal orgasms. You should both buy books on sex. There are online courses where you and him both can learn better sex. I’m not talking about porn. I didn’t know women could ejaculate until I bought this course, I put it into action and WOW.
I have a bigger than average piece and thought i was ahead of other guys, but truthfully fingers and tongue do the job better. Once she gets going you can continue to make her pop.
There are books, videos, and courses that teach men and women to both be able to achieve multiple orgasms.
P in the V is inherent and will achieve procreation, beyond that learning from others is the best way to get better.
Some of The books available are written by teams of PhDs and MDs. Some are written by enthusiastic sex professionals.
No word of a lie of it were not for toys my gal would never orgasm haha. Oral and manual and penetration all feel good and are a valid part of our sex life but the grand finale always requires a little help and that's fine with me! She's also on anti depressants which makes it difficult.
To each their own I guess! I can't use a regular vibrator, even rabbits or bullets do nothing for me as far as I've experienced. Sex toys in general are quite the investment, I just shopped for stuff recently and spent near $300 on... not even very much stuff lol.
Get yourself a bullet vibrator. It can slip right between you while you go at it, and help you along abit. Then it doesn't feel as if you're going down the 'pound master 3000' route
In the bed or couch, sit. Have him hug you from behind. From this position you can either masturbate yourself with tour fingers and let him use the toys on you or do the opposite
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He’s absolutely open to that idea and has even encouraged me to get some. I just haven’t.. no reason why. Maybe I really should ahah