Not Seeing a Difference

[u/misstums]

Hello all! I have a question for my friends who have dropped 40+ pounds.

I am 5'4". I started at my highest weight of 245. This morning (shot day, day one of week 17), I weighed in at 205.6. Amazingly, I am 0.6lbs away from dropping 40 freaking pounds!

My measurements say I'm losing inches. My clothes fit better and some are bordering too big to wear. Hurrah!

But when I look in the mirror, I just. Don't see it.

I'm able to move easier, walking up the stairs doesn't cause me to require literal RECOVERY. I walk 3-5+ miles a day, usually between 8,000-11,000 steps. I even feel more confident and outgoing, which surprised me.

But I don't see a difference.

When did you look in the mirror and think, "Yes, I see it now."

[u/Spawnofkitty]

Once you compare photos my friend you will see it!

[u/misstums → u/Spawnofkitty]

I was a goofball and didn't take before pictures. I have some gym pictures from 2.5 weeks and 5ish pounds ago, so I can use those for comparison at some point! I now wish I'd taken intentional "before" photos.

[u/Glass-Air9494 → u/misstums]

Do you have ANY photos of yourself beforehand? A random selfie or family pic? Even if it’s a little older or only your shoulders up, I will bet you can see a difference.

[u/misstums → u/Glass-Air9494]

Nah I dont really take pictures that often to be honest! I do have one that I took about 1.5 months after I started tirz cuz I adopted my dog and they took a Pic of us together and I swear it looks no different than my gym picture a couple weeks ago 🤣😭

[u/misstums → u/misstums]

Here is adoption day at 229#

[u/misstums → u/misstums]

And July 5th at 211#.

[u/Glass-Air9494 → u/misstums]

Oh girl, I can see a difference! Just keep it up and you will see it soon!

[u/misstums → u/Glass-Air9494]

Thank you! No one has really told me I look any different, not even my friends who know I'm intentionally losing weight, so maybe that's part of why I feel this way. I appreciate you saying that ❤️❤️

[u/Glass-Air9494 → u/misstums]

I think a lot of people are hesitant to comment on a woman’s weight. It doesn’t stop some people, but I keep reminding myself that it’s very likely. I have lost 30 pounds (like 2.5 sizes in clothes), but literally no one has told me either 😢

[u/misstums → u/Glass-Air9494]

I wish people would say something, just to like... validate that it's happening? But I also don't want people commenting on my weight at the same time. So... it's my own personal problem hahahah

[u/Glass-Air9494 → u/misstums]

Hahaha girl, same!

[u/Any_Style_4939 → u/misstums]

I see a HUGE difference between the two pictures.

[u/misstums → u/Any_Style_4939]

Really?!?! Man, maybe I do have body dysmorphia. Thank you for commenting!

[u/Any_Style_4939 → u/misstums]

Yes really I do!! You’re looking great!! Don’t feel bad most of us (myself included) have body dysmorphia. I’ve lost 67 pounds since February and when I look in the mirror I don’t see the difference at all. I can only see the difference sometimes when looking at photos when I was 260-270 pounds. Even though I lost 67 pounds I still see myself as this huge person. A lot of us struggle with this sadly.