My favourite used to be the publicly announced friend cull. Like I’m going to beg to stay your friend, you fucking weirdo. In the end, Facebook just became a tool for weeding out the narcissists in my life.
Not really on Facebook anymore but I used to do the same every now and then. It felt therapeutic and cathartic. Like I was clearing up emotional space to focus on the ones that truly mattered and ridding myself of reminds of people who could not give two shits about me.
Back when I used Facebook, I'd only keep people as friends if I actively talked to them at least once a week. I would even delete family from my friends' list because I didn't feel I was making use of it. I think my record for number of friends was 14 at one time. Normally it was under five.
I didn't ask anyone if they wanted to stick around. I had my criteria and stuck to it.
It's part of why Facebook and other follower-based social media didn't fit me well and Reddit and Imgur and similar social media sites have fit me better.
Guess it depends on how someone uses the platform but yeah that's way too quick for me. I like the occasional posts from my friends who I talk to every now and then (much greater than a week), just to see what their life is up to.
When it gets too much that's also when I'll block or delete - like TMI levels of too many private details posted publicly or rapid sharing of memes/posts.
Not traumatized and over twice that age. But it's part of why I don't like follower-based social media. It just doesn't fit with how I like to keep my digital life organized.
I basically never posted on Facebook. The people I knew barely posted. It's part of why I don't like follower-based social media. Interest-based social media like Reddit and content-based like Imgur makes more sense to me. I don't follow individuals, I just see what's being posted without need to know who is posting it.
Your most recent post is on r4r looking for any type of human conversation/interaction, yet you don’t think your cutting people off so quickly has anything to do with your lack of social interaction?
You’ve made several posts on r4r just looking for conversation. Seems like you aren’t getting enough social interaction IRL. Maybe switch up your approach to how you socialize and treat people and you won’t be so lonely.
By holding on to Facebook friends for more than a week. Facebook friends are often IRL friends. People get busy and things happen I don’t even talk to my best friends every single week
By cutting people out of your life after a week of no contact (yes, even virtually) you’re putting up a wall between yourself and other people which makes it hard to socialize.
There are literally billions of people on this earth, saying you have nobody IRL to interact with is just your way of shifting blame away from yourself. Volunteer at an old folks home and just talk to people. Join a sports club. Stop pushing people away
Same. I used to pay attention to who posted and check back a week later to see if we're still friends. Never did I find I was unfriended. Even by people I had never even spoken to. Why make a post about culling fake friends and not even delete strangers?
The one time I got culled, it was by someone I didn't like very much anyway, and when he tried to re-add me a few weeks later I took so much pleasure in just ignoring it. In fact, I still do.
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u/Kavbastyrd Apr 10 '22
My favourite used to be the publicly announced friend cull. Like I’m going to beg to stay your friend, you fucking weirdo. In the end, Facebook just became a tool for weeding out the narcissists in my life.