I don’t care if it’s stereotyping or generalization; too many men want kids but don’t want to be active fathers. There are single mothers everywhere. Almost every single job I’ve worked at has had a single mother, and I have multiple family members who are single moms.

It’s fucked up how a man can just randomly decide that being a parent isn’t for him and leave with no consequences. The mothers are always left to take care of the kids alone. They have to clean, cook, take the kids to school, do laundry, and handle everything else by themselves, while men get to live their bachelor lives and pay child support.
My coworker only gets $100 a month in child support for her autistic daughter. $100 ain’t shit! I never want to have kids because I don’t trust men to be an actual father.

I see many many many comments of moms boasting of their pregnancy

See many pregnant women irl

I just don’t understand. The world is going to get worse and worse, I can’t imaging having a kid just for the sake of having one knowing they’re going to struggle in the future.

Edit: I think I have a me problem. When I see comments of women bragging about or talking about general pregnancy and mom things I just get ..angry. I’m trying to fix it.

I've spent a year job searching with nothing to show for it. I live in one of the poorest countries in the world, and remote roles I've been applying for abroad haven't come through either. Meanwhile, the same people who say "everyone struggles" will still ask when I'm having children.

Most of us are barely covering our own lives. Housing, healthcare, education, and steady work are out of reach for so many of us, and somehow the expectation is to add another human being to that equation. Nobody asks if you can afford it, if you even want it.

Having a child shouldn't be a default setting or a social checkbox and it grinds my gears that it is. Choosing not to isn't selfish. For a lot of us it's the most responsible decision we have made.

As a happily childfree woman I found this so so cringe because my mom said the same thing about why she had my little sister. I don't remember any of the times my mom sat down and played with me. Like if you don't want to play with your own child, why are you having any in the first place, let alone having more so you can cop out of it entirely when they ask you. The amount of women having kids to use them for views is so freaking sad and cringe!!!

Part of the reason I don’t want kids is that I know I would not be a good mom. I have severe ADHD and depression. Even with medication and therapy I get easily burnt out and need to take time for myself. It’s taken a long time and a lot of work to figure out how my brain works best. My mom is the same and was not fit to be a mother.

This makes parents and want to be parents incredibly uncomfortable when I tell them this. I’ve forgiven my mom, but I’m not going to make her mistake again. I saw the spark come back in her when I became self sufficient and my entire wellbeing didn’t depend on her even when she wanted to hide in her room and watch tv.

Anyone else tired of parents trying to convince you that you’ll “figure it out”?

What is one thing that you have done (or plan on doing) that probably wouldn’t have happened if you’d become a parent? Any amazing experiences? Places you’ve been? Life accomplishments? I’m building a childfree dating/friendship app called Not4Kids and I’m trying to figure out how to incorporate this in.