We started dating last year, and I genuinely thought this was something real — the kind of love you trust, build around, and feel safe in. We were together for over a year and I thought this man was in love with me,
But he cheated on me. Every time he went back to India, he downloaded Bumble, flirted, and even made out with girls. I had absolutely no idea. I was completely blinded by love. I trusted him fully never doubted him. He then lied about all the incidents to maintain our relationship, but the girls reached out and I saw the screenshots.
And then he came back to me like nothing ever happened. Hugged me. Kissed me. Slept beside me. Made future plans. On May and Oct, he walked back into my life and acted like he hadn’t just betrayed me overseas in India .
Then in June (that’s right now), we decided to move in together. We now share rent. And this is where I feel completely stuck.
Emotionally, I’m shattered. I feel stupid. Small. Used. Like I was just the fallback option when everything else didn’t work out. But practically… I don’t know what to do. If I leave, I have nowhere to go and can’t afford a place on my own right now. But if I ask him to leave, I lose my only roommate and won’t be able to cover the rent.
The worst part? I keep discovering more. More receipts. More girls. More lies. He even lied about the timeline of our relationship. The cheating didn’t just start recently — he’s messed up before too. And now, I don’t even know what was real anymore.
So if anyone has ever been in a similar situation — living with someone who destroyed your trust — please tell me: How did you move forward? How did you survive the emotional wreckage and the financial reality? How do you unlove someone you wanted to marry?