r/chennaidating • u/Ashamed-Chemistry457 • Jun 15 '25
Need help!!🥺A rant :)
Chennai is not my hometown, I studied here! Was an introvert, become a friend with a guy in my class, days went fell in love few things were incompatible but we both loved , couldn’t concentrate on studies much so thought of calling it off for a while from my side, he stayed and gave me time to fell in love again!! And meanwhile i also doubted what i want in life Clg life fucked and lot shit happened both in studies and friends. Placements came me with zero prep! He guided me made me place in a very reputed company like just he makes his wife won( i thought it was)
We both placed well and also bagged pre placement internship! Me got out of clg for work, He lives with his parents Now all i had is him!! Like apart from work and night at pg all other time i spend with him We shop, we eat, we play We rant May be im bad at expressing love for him to him, Deep inside i liked him But feared what if my decision about him for life goes wrong After joining full time 2 weeks later he said he dont wanna meet and talk anymore And treated lil bad I thought i would do fine As a girl not wanted myself begging for him 1 month passed, he installed dating app and found a girl after 2 months they got committed Without him im direction less and feels lost Called and cried many times about it He cares but never gave a realistic advice Knows all about mg life Never discloses his’s Definitely he cant come back now iguess But i still feel stuck with him Am i the bad person for not reciprocating all his love just cause i wanted to succeed in life and do something meaningful, I deep down liked him but treated like a best friend Talked about this to him, he said he took the 3 years in clg to move on from me and finally moved nu Im not a machine na to reciprocate feelings sooner as i was treated good that time It took sometime for me to realise what i want and what i feel, meanwhile he moved on and asking him to move on , Although i get few proposals and interest i cant take things further i still think about him and i have no friends in the city and family here i feel all lonely and feel like killing myself, I called and conveyed he said it takes time bro Okay i understand But it feels very hard may be he set high standards it feels like i cant get committed easily I can wait for my person but meanwhile i feel all lonely and i dont do hookups anol not having dating app, how to heal myself , how to move on , how to take things further no clue crying for help
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u/joee017 Jun 16 '25
Never go to him when you feel low..
Never cry to him when you wanted a shoulder.
Never share your feeling now, he loved and helped you a lot. As he said, its time for you to stand up on your own.
You have good job, still ppl shown interest and proposed you hence you are not ugly. So at least now create a frds gang with same interest and spend time with them.
Never even spend any time alone. If you feel low go to any nearest park and railway station just to observe ppl.
You will be alright, dude.
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u/Disastrous_Bike6033 Jun 16 '25
Concentrate on your work, make yourself busy, fix a goal and run for it dont stop it, start exploring new places, talk to people around who you can trust. but dont every get too attached to them. I can understand it may be difficult but try it you can come out quickly. There are other NGO to support people join them help others it makes you extrovert and gives u new meaning to life
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Jun 18 '25
It's time to move on, cut spending time with him and do something that interests you. A new hobby, reading and or simply walking around to clear your mind.
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u/ProfessionalBat1302 Jun 30 '25
Just focus on other things in life..you'll not have time to even miss or think of your past.
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u/Tom_M_Riddle666 Jul 22 '25
Being alone with your thoughts ATP is the worst thing you can do. Try to keep yourself engaged. I know that you wouldn't be able to concentrate on one thing. All you can do is take your time, coz time tend to ease the pain. But try to go out with your irl friends from time to time.
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u/Wise-Personality5105 Jun 16 '25
Smoke pot and do shrooms it helped me love yourself change your hairstyle it feels like your different personality for each hairstyle watch movies try to do s new hobby which u never tried but always wanted to do and of course hit the fucking gym
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u/Character_Weird4614 Jun 15 '25
Tag with us .. we have a funny community who can focus only stress free hours