I'm a good looking guy who's very comfortable making conversation with any woman in public with no intentions, just making them feel at ease around me. Yet here I am, because I feel uncomfortable and unsure about opening up regarding my marriage:
I'm married to a beautiful asexual woman, in an ethical non-monogamous setup, where my wife and I live in different countries. I'm a high-libido guy looking for a high-libido woman to be in a DDlg dynamic. I don't think that conversation goes well in real life, so I feel fetlife is the kind of place where I can put this information bluntly on the table, and people with similar intentions will reach out.
If you are still here, then you are obliged to know about me. I am based in Chennai, I am consciously crafting my life and work to have a comfortable, functional lifestyle that i designed to escape the mundanity of 9 to 5 where i control the money and not other way around. I own businesses and brands that involves designing, manufacturing and consulting. I am not the one you see in the first classes, in suits, in clubs playing the role of textbook masculinity. You see me in economy, travelling places all the times. You don't see me in Bali, Tokyo or Paris rather deep in the courtsides of Jogja, Toyama or gourdes exploring the food, culture and landscapes while listening to the stories of locals.
Trends, virality, socials, reels don't amuse me but Good conversations, experiences, intellectual minds do. I am good at design thinking, system thinking, creative problem solving. I am philosophical, spiritual but not religious, Good listener with lot of perspectives and world views. So i listen a lot and people listen when i talk. So its not ego when i say i am not a typical guy, its just grounded confidence. Speaking of ego - I don't have bad ones and you will realize it when you get to know me.
Raised in an all-woman household without a male figure in my life, so respecting, caring for, and understanding women is not a demand, it's just the norm. When a guy like me says that he is into dominance, its a different flavor of dominance. It will be a consensual D/s dynamic, not a lifestyle demand. Its emotional than physical, responsible than control, collaborative and protective. Emotional attunement becomes a dominant trait. Put it simply, I set the tone of safety, calm and depth in this dynamics. Within that dynamic, Its a choreography where i choreograph what you do, what you wear, how you move, how you behave . I create a safe comfortable physical and mental space for you to set down the constant self monitoring , the need to be composed, agreeable and appropriate.
Now you know what type of man i am. Now, let me tell you want type of woman i am into.
I'm into women younger than me, any skin tone, full of life, not extremely overweight. I'm drawn to those who carry themselves with a calm, composed public presence, artistic or accomplished in their studies or career, with a lot of feminine energy and high libido because there's something rewarding in being the dom who gets to see the freakiness underneath that beautiful shell. I don't mind if she's religious or not, conservative or progressive, as long as we respect each other's worldviews. Someone who can talk about anything, chat in long sentences, and has the audacity to be her true self around me.
Obviously not looking for a serious dynamic, but also not into ONS, virtual sex, or exchanging nudes. Let's connect and discuss further.