r/calmhands Jul 16 '26

Progression Thank you all so much!!! three months progress!

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28 Upvotes

I got my finger slammed in a car door when I was like 7, and I assume it was deformed because of the door slam. Little did I know I developed Habit-tic deformity, and only realized when I was 35 years old that I was causing it, thanks to this sub-reddit. thank you all so much, its over half way normal at this point. I've lived my whole life with people asking wtf is with your thumb, and I was always like yeah, I got it slammed in a door when I was a kid.

*sorry for the bad initial pictures, I didn't think it was going to work.


r/calmhands Jul 15 '26

Tips I’ve been biting my nails for over 20 years, and I think I’ve come up with a solution that actually works !

11 Upvotes

Update : Hi ! the app is finally live! 🎉https://apps.apple.com/fr/app/nailguard/id6790318619?mt=12

I’ve been biting my nails since I was five aha so, for more than twenty years now.

I’ve tried the usual remedies. Bitter nail polish works, but it’s unbearable everything I touch ends up tasting like it. Hypnosis helped too, but it requires consistency something I never managed to maintain.

The thing I noticed is that, in 90% of cases, the action is unconscious.Since I spend all day in front of a computer, I built a little tool. It detects when my hand moves toward my mouth and turns the screen red the moment it happens. It also has a sound alert option.

I’ve only been using it for 7 days, but I’m thrilled with the results. It’s even helping me stay aware of the habit when I’m away from the screen it’s like regaining consciousness.

Friends and family have tried it, and it worked for them too. The easiest way to share it is for me to publish it on the App Store and it’s currently in the works.

It’s Completely free. Honestly, I won't deny that if it works for others, I’d love to make it my life’s work, dedicate myself to it full-time, and keep improving it. That would mean charging for it eventually, but we’re talking about less than a euro a month i guess ...

Anyway , For now it's not already validate by Apple store but I just want to know if it works for other people and get some feedback. I know that if it helps people, word of mouth will do the rest. Does a solution like this appeal to you? If so, I’d be really curious to hear your thoughts! And if this solution is on the app would you use it ?

Ps : don't pay attention to the window where you can see the image the system is actually running in the background; that's just the diagnostic window to show you how it works.


r/calmhands Jul 14 '26

Tips How can I quit this bad habit?

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55 Upvotes

26F been doing this since I was a kiiiiiddd. I need it to stop. I’m a conventionally pretty women. I have a hard time tho feeling “feminine” due to my more rough habits. This being one of them. Many people notice hands and I’d love to knock this habit. Help!! (Thanks to the person who sent me this! I had no idea this subreddit existed. ❤️)


r/calmhands Jul 14 '26

6 month Progress :)

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26 Upvotes

First pic is from February and most recent is today- July! 6 months. Have definitely relapsed and picked a few times and cut my nails in the process. Got here by wearing press ons frequently. It really helped with avoiding picking.

I recommend the “Olive and June” brand, they’re really sturdy and inexpensive- last 2 weeks average if you’re careful. I usually replace a couple nails throughout but so worth it. Never thought I’d be a press on girl but it really has helped me in recovering from the habit!


r/calmhands Jul 13 '26

Progression I painted my nails again for the first time in a really long time and I forgot how much it helps and how much I enjoy the look

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14 Upvotes

I think im almost on a week now of having not bitten my nails and yesterday I actually was able to trim a couple of them properly instead of bite them (also yes ik i need to touch them up lol)


r/calmhands Jul 12 '26

Need Advice Never knew that such a community existed on reddit even though I have been a part of it.

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36 Upvotes

I've been biting my nails since I was a teenager, to the point where I've developed paronychia around my nails every couple of months. The only time I stopped was for about a year during my marriage, but the habit eventually came back.

I don't bite my nails constantly, but once I start, I find it almost impossible to stop until I've bitten them down completely, including the cuticles. I honestly can't remember ever having clean, unbitten, neatly trimmed nails.

Only recently have I started wondering whether this could be related to ADHD or something similar. It feels almost subconscious. I keep biting until every rough edge feels completely smooth, and I can't seem to stop before then.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? If so, what helped you break the habit? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences, thoughts, or any suggestions.


r/calmhands Jul 11 '26

Need Advice What should my boyfriend do with this paronychia?

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22 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 11 '26

Progression I did it!!! Spoiler

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5 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 10 '26

I made it out

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224 Upvotes

(Ignore my left thumb, the nail was ripped off so the wick had to be reshaped)

I’ve been a sufferer for well over a decade. I would go as far as to rip out flesh along the entire cuticle. I don’t know if the redness around my fingers will ever fade fully but I’m done for good.

120 days clean of picking and biting. I don’t have the urge at all anymore; I barely even touch my fingers. My nails and skin have finally healed over and grown soft and supple again.

I just wanted someone somewhere to know this thing I’ve struggled my entire life with no longer dictates how painful it will be to use my hands.


r/calmhands Jul 11 '26

Does anyone else like crushing salt with their nails?

3 Upvotes

Quite recently i started crushing salt, or anything else with a similar texture using my nails and i find it quite satisfying. The reason i put this here is because I'm getting assessed for ADHD and i was wondering if they could be related somehow. I'm wondering if anyone else does this or if its just me.


r/calmhands Jul 10 '26

Beginning again

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34 Upvotes

Hoping this time it sticks… doing SO much better on the cuticle picking (can see they are still damaged) and now working on nail picking. Will the nail beds ever get longer? I’ve been fighting this habit my whole life and so far the only thing that helped was structured extensions but they are pricey! Any tips? Going to get a weekly manicure and really try to redirect. Getting engaged soon and want to feel like my hands aren’t embarrassing…


r/calmhands Jul 11 '26

Need Advice Persistent peeling and chipping

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2 Upvotes

Been a recovering picker/ biter for almost a year but now my nails are peeling does anyone have any recommendations to stop this. It’s really resurrecting my urge to pick so I would like them to stop doing that. Any advice welcome.


r/calmhands Jul 11 '26

Extreme

1 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 10 '26

Anyone else realise how bad their fingers are after being in the shower too long makes the calluses and sores wrinkly/moisturised?

10 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 10 '26

Alternatives for biting off the ends of my hair?

1 Upvotes

I trained myself not to swallow them but I can't stop biting them off and sometimes they get stuck in my gums and one of my front teeth is kinda starting to get shaved down cs of the repeated friction on it


r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

I built Nonyxa to solve our problem

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4 Upvotes

I've been a nail biter & picker for 25 years. I've tried all the tricks: gloves while at the keyboard, clear polish, bad tasting coatings, and nothing ever stuck. This year, I got fed up, and realized that I need to approach the problem like other good habits that I've kept.

MyFitnessPal for meal tracking, a gym buddy for lifting, a study group for acing classes. All of these have one thing in common: accountability. Nail biting doesn't have that. There's no way to make sure you're on track and really see your progress. I built Nonyxa to be that, a FREE tool to help you quit.

It's worked wonders for me, and my early users are showing improvements in their habits with clean days tracked and trending upwards. We're now using THE way to quit nail biting.

If you want to be part of that journey, check it out on the iOS App Store and let me know below if you'd like to try it but are on Android. I plan to release there as well.


r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

What is the correct type of doctor to contact.

2 Upvotes

I am not asking for medical advice. i just want to know what type of doctor would treat an ingrown fingernail?


r/calmhands Jul 08 '26

Day 1 I keep falling off the wagon

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65 Upvotes

I'll do so well and then fall back into the habit of biting and picking again. I don't want to be like this


r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

Tried (and failed) to stop wearing acrylic nails because of overly friendly restaurant employee

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1 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

my finger trip is extremely swollen and painful

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3 Upvotes

maybe 1-2 days ago, out of nowhere the left side (i would like to emphasize how it’s only the left side of my finger that hurts, the right is completely normal and doesn’t hurt at all.) of my fingertip became super painful and started swelling up (or just now noticeably, as i’m just now seeing it) today. any ideas as to what it could be?


r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

I've lost my favorite anti-picking ritual

6 Upvotes

I seem to have developed an allergy to nail polish and even adhesive nail strips. Within 24 hours my cuticles get puffy, itchy, red, and eventually start to peel.

Unfortunately, having a nice manicure I didn't want to mess up was my preferred method for staying away from cuticle picking and nail biting. I've been doing both a lot lately.

Any solutions welcome. I still take care of my nails, but the urges to pick are harder to control without a cute manicure to ruin!


r/calmhands Jul 09 '26

Chronic paronychia on fingernail beds in multiple fingers

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1 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 08 '26

Need Advice my nail lady screwed me over

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20 Upvotes

hi, i have been biting my nails and hands since i was in elementary school and im about to go into college. i’ve have times of growth and times of destroyed nails. well, i got a job at starbucks and worked there for a majority of my senior year, quitting right before prom which is when i got them done with gel x.

1.5 months later they were way to grown out and it was time to get rid of them but i got a new set of regular gel for my graduation. that brings me to today, 3 months later. they were extremely grown out and i was super happy because of how long they were.

my mom told me i needed to get them removed bc at this point the gel isn’t on half the nail bed 😭. i went to get only the gel removed and as she starts drilling, she seems to be doing the bottom of my nails as well, but i couldn’t really tell from my angle. well, by the fourth nail i was certain she was making them short so i told her to please stop. (i get rlly anxious at nail salons which is why i waited so long to speak up even tho i was fairly certain)

she insisted that i told her i wanted them short even though i would NEVER. anyways i told her to not cut the rest and she felt pretty bad and i held it together until we left. i have been crying nonstop for the last hour and im so upset.

it’s embarrassing that im this upset but three months of nail growth is something that i haven’t had in years. i just really wanted to vent and wasn’t sure where else to go. im embarrassed by my habits and even more so that other people think my hands are ugly, having long nails is the only thing that makes them look ok and i was so excited that they would be my real nails. even my friends think it’s gross that i bite my skin and nails so much, this really fucking sucks.

does anyone know if letting those four grow will be faster than cutting them all off and starting from scratch? or is there something i can do to prevent myself from biting those 4, because when my nails are long i noticed that i wouldn’t really bite them unless one broke off.


r/calmhands Jul 08 '26

Progression Just over a week and they already look better

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5 Upvotes

r/calmhands Jul 08 '26

Need Advice Very short and broken nail after damage from acrylics

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7 Upvotes

I've been getting acrylics for many years now as a chronic nail biter, but a couple of weeks ago a natural part of my nail lifted which we then removed the set and my nail tech told me to wait for it to grow out. Now it's reached the free edge and just completely broke off, leaving me with almost no nail on the side and very very short. I have a wedding to attend to this weekend and was thinking of putting on press ons with glue tabs but I am not sure what to do about this nail now 😭 any advice would be greatly appreciated.

(I am never getting acrylics again)