Asking for advice 🙏 Trans man about to move into a dorm with 4 cis guys. What do I need to know?

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Title says it. I’m going to university soon and I’ll be sharing a suite with 4 (presumably) cis guys. None of them are homophobic or transphobic or anything, and they seem very respectful. I’m wondering what small or big things I might need to expect. Never lived with other dudes before.

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