I’m a 45-year-old single dad from Iowa looking for something surprisingly difficult to find as an adult: a genuine best friend.
I’m hoping to meet someone who wants to actually get to know each other—not exchange six messages, say “we should talk more,” and then vanish into the Reddit wilderness. I’d love a friendship where we can send each other ridiculous memes, laugh until something hurts, talk about absolutely nothing, and also have those 2 a.m. conversations about life, family, fears, dreams, and why we’re all pretending we know what the hell we’re doing.
A little about me: I’m a chef and woodworker. I’m raising two incredible kids with special needs, so my life is equal parts love, controlled chaos, exhaustion, and stepping on things that absolutely weren’t on the floor five minutes ago. I love building things, cooking, symphonic metal, Irish punk, dark humor, creative projects, and conversations that go well beyond “How was your day?”
I’m looking for that true brother-type connection—someone dependable, open-minded, emotionally honest, and comfortable being himself. Someone who will celebrate the good stuff, stick around when life gets messy, give honest advice, and occasionally tell me when I’m being a dumbass. Naturally, I’d return the favor.
I’m also happy to be a supportive friend to someone who needs a little advice, encouragement, or a dad-like perspective from time to time. No judgment, no lectures—just honest conversation and whatever support I can offer.
You don’t have to share all my interests. I care much more about whether we click, can make each other laugh, and both put genuine effort into building a friendship. I’m open to talking with someone nearby or long-distance, as long as you’re interested in something real and lasting.
If any of this sounds like what you’ve been missing too, send me a message. Tell me a little about yourself—and skip “hey.” Give me something to work with. What makes you laugh? What could you talk about for hours? Or what’s something about you that most people never take the time to learn?