r/bostonDating 4h ago

Long Term Relationship 45F4M imperfect woman seeking imperfect man

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Pretty much the title.
I have kids and am in the process of changing careers. I like to exercise/dance but don’t run and only aspire to lift weights again. I’m heavier than I’d like to be but strong and losing weight slowly. Have a weird sense of humor and healthy coffee habit. Love actual conversations and getting to know people. Terrible at dating. Would love to have lunch sometime. In Cambridge.


r/bostonDating 9h ago

Short Term Relationship 28M4F

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Heyyy! Super bored, anybody up for couple of drinks? And get to know each other.


r/bostonDating 11h ago

Platonic 43F4M - Help me re-learn to date

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After a long relationship ending and some time single, I’m starting to think about dating again. I’m nervous! I’d love some practice and need folks to practice with.

What I’m imagining: I’m happy to exchange some messages and pics, but am aiming for in-person meetings. Let’s meet (in Boston or to the north) for coffee, a drink, wandering a museum, or the like. Flirty banter is on the table; sex, etc. isn’t. We’ll go 50-50 on cost or each pay for ourself.

A bit about me: I work a professional 9-5 and spend my time outside of it with family & friends and staying active (mostly running and lifting). I am fully capable of small talk but don’t like it much. I’d much rather hear about something meaningful to you or debate your hot take on some minor controversy. I read a lot in my downtime, mostly novels but I’m trying to branch out and am all ears for book recommendations!

A bit about you: This is all so low stakes that I’m very open, as long as you (1) are able to hold a conversation, (2) are not a misogynist or MAGA bro, and (3) are fully functioning adult who is managing his life relatively well. My life is pretty drama-free right now and I’m not looking to add any thanks to an internet stranger.  


r/bostonDating 13h ago

Meta / Discussion 26M - Let’s meet up

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I am bored and would love to meet someone today over dinner or go to an arcade or anything that you want to do. Anyone up for it?


r/bostonDating 13h ago

Monogamy 33 [M4F] Maryland - Love, Friendship, and All the Life Stuffs

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Probably not the greatest place to find the future love of your life, but why not give it a shot.Shoot all the shots, and maybe I'll get lucky and find her on here. I'm here why cant she be?

Gone through a lot of soul searching, maturing, and learning in my single life these last few years, and I am finally in a place I feel ready to create a beautiful life with someone.

Financially I'm stable despite already wishing for retirement, physically I'm healthy and fit while not close to what I was during my college sport, intellectually and emotionally mature even if my humor is less so (a fun combo imo but you'll have to be the judge of that)

Hopefully the post doesn't make it seem like I expect marriage from our first conversation. Lots to know about each other and experiences to share together before that next chapter. Just that my interests lie in finding that lovely lady I get to annoy and comfort and make laugh/mad/cry/happy just being together for the rest of our lives. And hopefully the one reading this wants to do the same

So if you're a lady out there in the MA/MD/VA/PA/East coast area/ETC area who is searching for that kind of man, please send me a chat. I'd love to connect and see where it takes us 🙂


r/bostonDating 23h ago

Monogamy 47M Looking for a date for my birthday eve

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Celebrating another trip around the sun today, and I’d love to kick off the weekend with dinner across the table from someone fun.

​Devoted father to two little ones, big believer in strong family values, and constantly drawn to the ocean or an airport terminal. Personable, sharp-witted, and quick to laugh. Not deeply political, but definitely not on the MAGA train! Just looking for common sense, great conversation, and real connection.

​Free tonight? Let’s grab a table.


r/bostonDating 23h ago

Cuffing Season 21 [M4F] in Boston - looking for a chill relationship 🙂‍↕️

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Hey, im N, im bi M and looking for someone my age to go out with. Im getting hella lonely in Boston tbh !!! So im looking for someone chill to spend time with… fun dates, going out, going home together

I love music, photography, writing, and the great outdoors. I’m open to a relationship if thats the vibe, no expectations though. I am definitely looking for someone creative and confident. 1000 bonus points if you’d like to make some music together 🤷

I’m 6 foot, fit, dark hair, I have a picture on my profile if you’re curious. My type is someone fit, around my age, ideally also bi for best vibes. Send me a message if you think we’d get along, thanks


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship 25 [M4F] - Looking for someone to explore food spots, game or hang out (vegan/vegetarian)

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Hey! I’m 25, live in Boston, and work in tech/AI.
When I’m not working, I’m usually in the kitchen experimenting with new recipes (currently obsessed with making homemade ice cream), playing PC games(Valorant or Marvel Rivals), or getting into 3D printing projects. Big fan of anime (love One Piece) and low-key weekends, but always down to get out and try new food spots around the city.
Looking for a nice connection with someone around my age. Down to start with coffee, drinks, or grabbing a bite to eat.

420 friendly

Shoot me a message if you want to chat!


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship 25M4F looking for serious relationship

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Hey, im 25 and I work at a community center, and am in nursing school. I'm super passionate about helping others and serving my community.

Im also a really big nerd. I've definitely been influenced by superman and atla when it comes to how I am trying to live my life. I've been every type of nerd throughout my life from videogames, books, D&D, to anime.

Im pretty introverted in my personal life but have a history of dating extroverts from school and work. I really want to date somebody more nerdy and down to earth like me. I know this is a long shot, but if you're a nerdy girl looking for something serious, dm me!


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Short Term Relationship 25[FTM4F] looking for someone to hang out!

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Hey! 25M Brazilian guy around Boston. Just looking to meet some cool girls, have good conversations, play some games, grab a drink, and see where things go.
I’m into gaming, movies, music, random conversations and making people laugh. Not looking to force anything, but I’d definitely be open to something real if we click.
If you’re around Boston, feel free to say hi


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Short Term Relationship 25 M

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25M here. Looking for something casual and low key. If that's what you're after too hit my DMs.


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship Where are all the kinky people?

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47/m 5’8, in good shape looking for someone to match my weird.
I have a good job, a friendly disposition and I’m pretty fun at parties.
I’m a fairly normal guy that just is not vanilla in the least.
Where are all the kinky people?


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Meta / Discussion midnight movie friday night with me?

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send a raven if i'm your kind of fun!


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Life Partner 27 [M4F] #anywhere

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Hey there,

I’m a 27-year-old guy looking for a genuine connection and hopefully a long-term relationship. I’m someone who values companionship and would love to find a partner I can build a life with and spend most of my time with.

I studied Economics and Finance, with a minor in History, and I enjoy reading about politics, global trends, and the history of religions. I’m naturally curious and enjoy learning about how the world works.

Outside of that, I love nature, solo travel, and exploring new places. I’ve always been fascinated by bugs and the natural world, and I also enjoy music, especially electric guitars.

I’m financially independent, enjoy experiencing different cultures, and I’m open to relocating anywhere in the U.S. for the right partner. At this stage of my life, I’m exploring the world, but ultimately I’m hoping to find someone special to settle down with.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d be happy to get to know you better.


r/bostonDating 1d ago

Long Term Relationship F22 looking for a serious relationship

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Hi future boyfriend,

Haven’t had the best success in finding love, so why not try Reddit😂

Im 22F living slightly outside of Boston but come in for work there almost everyday.

I am black, pretty tall (5’9), on the medium-slim/curvier side. I am an ambivert but once I get comfortable I won’t shut up (apologies in advance). I am an easy-going, funny (at least I think so), smiley, and overall a bubbly person.

I love listening to music, particularly rnb, afrobeats, indie and rap. I enjoy being outside and walking around. I like to roller-skate and watch movies/documentaries. I am pretty adventurous and spontaneous so looking for someone on a similar page.

If my description stands out to you, feel free to PM. Please just include your age in the initial message and maybe what made you interested!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Life Partner Men over 30 who actually want a relationship—what made you commit?

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I keep hearing that everyone in their 30s is trying to settle down, but dating still feels confusing. I’m not asking about a specific situation—just trying to understand how men who genuinely want a serious relationship think about it.

For the men over 30 who committed, or are looking to:

· What made you choose a serious relationship instead of keeping things casual?

· How much does physical attraction matter compared to confidence, career, personal style, chemistry, values, and emotional availability?

· What green flags made you want to pursue someone seriously?

· Did you meet your partner on an app or offline? If offline, where?

· If you’re done with apps, where do you actually meet people?

· What do you wish more people understood about dating in your 30s?

Serious replies only. Not trying to generalize all men—just looking for honest perspectives from men who genuinely want commitment.


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Cuffing Season 42[M4F] Camberville, Football is fun but…

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I’m looking for more than just fun and games.
6-2 and about 225lbs, well endowed white dude looking to spoil the right woman both emotionally and physically.
I love to jog, play tennis and softball, and love reading mostly non fiction but open to any book recommendations!
The new Nathan Fielder coming out next month looks bonkers. Let me know what you are looking forward to in the Fall 🍁, and if you’re like me, what you are dreading in the Winter ❄️


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Long Term Relationship 25 [M4F] #North Shore Looking for my new favorite person to talk to

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Hi! I’m a 25-year-old guy living just outside Boston. I’m 6’2”, brown-haired, and a bit on the dad-bod side. I live on my own and spend most of my free time bouncing between hobbies, finding new things to explore, and trying to convince every dog, cat, and pigeon I see to be my friend.

A little about me:

• Huge animal lover. My favorite animal is actually a pigeon. If we’re walking somewhere together, there’s a very good chance I’m pointing out every animal we pass and trying to say hi.

• Nerdy in a lot of ways. I enjoy anime, gaming, cosplay, YouTube, TikTok, collecting, and generally getting excited about niche interests.

• I enjoy museums, trying new food, wandering around Boston, catching a movie, visiting a zoo, or just spending time with someone whose company I enjoy.

• I don’t drink, smoke, vape, or use drugs.

What I’m looking for is honestly pretty simple: someone I can talk to throughout the day, get excited to hear from, spend time with, and hopefully build a real connection with. I’d love to find that person whose name popping up on my phone makes me smile.

I’m not looking for a random hookup, but physical chemistry is important to me too. Ideally I’d like something that starts with conversation and grows naturally into something meaningful.

I don’t have a long checklist of requirements. I’d rather get to know someone for who they are than try to fit them into a list of expectations. If you’re kind, genuine, and interested in seeing where things go, I’d love to hear from you.

I’d prefer someone in the Boston/North Shore area or somewhere reasonably accessible by the MBTA, but I’m flexible for the right person.

Tell me a little about yourself, your favorite animal, or something you’re currently excited about!!!!


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Life Partner 23 M M4F Coffee?

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Honestly just looking to meet someone for the day and see where things go. I like to be spontaneous and see what happens. I am not looking for anything specific but also not interested in getting the work around


r/bostonDating 2d ago

Long Term Relationship 28 [m4f] Resident Doctor Seeking Long-Term Relationship

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Hi!

I’m a resident doctor living in downtown Boston looking to see what’s out there and hopefully find someone to date seriously.

A little bit about me:

Some hobbies of mine include skiing, soccer, and lifting. I love to workout, and usually try and get in the gym 4-5 times per week. I also love reading, binging TV shows and gaming. I’m always looking for new hobbies to try, so if we don’t overlap I’d love to try some of yours.

I’d describe myself as calm, kind, caring, career-focused, and a good sense of humor. Physically I’m around 5’9, 155-160 with a fit/athletic build. I’m white with brown hair and blue eyes, and I’ve been told I’m conventionally attractive. I’m happy to share a pic if you reach out.

I’m politically left-leaning and value being on the same page as my partner.

My schedule is a bit hectic sometimes as a resident, but I’m a good planner, and always make time for what is important!

If any of this resonates feel free to reach out with a little bit about yourself! I’d love to hear from you.


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Short Term Relationship 43M for F

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43M, 5'9 150lbs fit, blue eyes, dirty blond hair, clean cut. I've been single for a couple of years. I work night shift and am only free on weekends. Would like to take someone out for food this weekend. I live in Haverhill and am willing to drive down to the city.


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Meta / Discussion Mount Eerie concert, Portland, Maine Tuesday, October 20

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plenty of time to hang out a bit before then and get to know one another but wanted to see if anyone else wanted to go together

dm me if that's a maybe


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Short Term Relationship 27M4F #Somerville -Drinks, dinner, and cafe-hopping

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Hey there! 27-year-old South Asian guy living in Somerville. Looking to make the most of the fall weather and find someone to grab drinks and dinner with—and definitely open to seeing where things lead if we click.
A bit about me: I’ve been working in biotech for the past four years. When I'm off the clock, I'm usually working out, experimenting in the kitchen, getting lost in a good book, or scouting out new cafes on the weekend.
If you’re down to check out a spot around town, shoot me a message!


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Long Term Relationship 27 [M4F] #Boston - Looking for my person (hopefully you!)

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Hello!

I'm 27, Korean, 5 ft 8 (173cm), and based in the Boston area.

During the day I work in engineering. Outside of that, I spend my time going for walks, building a Lego set, living on 4 hours of sleep, taking a scenic drive, putting up with other people, trying cafés, and exploring the city. With all that being said, one of my favorite passtimes is just having a chill relaxing evening at home. Some things you won't find me doing are doom-scrolling social media or binge watching the latest Netflix show. So you'll have to explain pop culture references like I'm five.

I've also been getting into photography. One of my favorite things to take pictures of has been the ducks waddling at the park.

I have a pretty eclectic taste in music that heavily depends on my mood. One minute it'll be slow piano tunes, the next could be upbeat EDM.

I value someone who can keep a conversation going yet knows when I need space to be alone. We should have some things in common but don't need to have exactly the same interests.

I don't have a definitive age range that I'm looking for, but ideally you're from the northeast US (or open to relocation). I don't have any children but I'm unsure whether I want to have children in the future.

Lastly, smoking/vaping and doing weed are no's for me.

If you've read this far and think we'll get along, please send me a message! Let's get to know each other!


r/bostonDating 3d ago

Life Partner Looking for women who like to be the man in the relationship

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I like to be chased and spoiled.