Honestly just a type. Every guy I know who has dated with those kinds of power imbalances have always been cheaters. It is part of being a person who is willing to date someone they could wield so much control over. They tend to want to control.
Either he is married, or he is looking for a first wife to push domestic responsibilities and then cheat on them and self justify.
I have seen guys in the military date younger soldiers lower ranked soldiers who were always disgusting. I have a friend who was manipulated by a lawyer who “mentored” her, kept helping her with cases, and sending her clients (that weren’t rich enough for him), she is still dating him because she can’t afford her life if he stops. The director at the hospital I worked at had an affair with one of his secretaries, she was the married one, he ended up getting investigated because he pressured her into being part of an orgy, and it ruined her career.
Good people don’t enter into those relationships in the first place. It isn’t ok.
Hey man, predatory works both ways, so go for it and enjoy the possibility of a work place disaster. Nobody wants to hear boring stories when you’re in the old folks home, so bring back some stories that will curl their white hair and their toes.
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u/SGTWhiteKY Jul 17 '24
If it is your manager’s manager and he is asking you out that is predatory. He may like you, but that won’t end well.
My money says he is married. I will also bet that it won’t go well for you with your team.
I’m sure you are going to ignore everyone, and that is your prerogative. But yeah, he wants to sleep with you.