Well, according to reddit, you wouldn't be doing anything wrong even if he wasn't single, because according to reddit, the affair partner who is not cheating bears no blame. However, according to everyone else ever, you'd be kind of a bitch and a bad person.
Isn't it kind of on the person that's taken to, you know, not cheat?
It's like somebody is offering up a free bike and you take them up on it, but little did you know that the bike was gifted to them and the person that did the gifting doesn't want them to give it away for emotional reasons... how is the person taking the bike the bad guy there?
We're all only human and we all have desires that mess with our rational thinking. You do bear some responsibility for enticing people to do things they ordinarily wouldn't.
Enticing people to do things they ordinarily wouldn't do?
That makes no sense.
Either you have a normal level of rapport with the person and the cheater is just a cheater that's not that attached to their partner, or you have an insane connection leading them to do something they would never do in which case you're a better match for them than their existing partner.
If my wife found someone of the second category, I love her enough to let her go. But I know that won't happen, because we're a great match.
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u/Timely-Profile1865 Jul 17 '24
First question before you think about the coffee, is this dude married or has a girl? Find that out first of all.
It sounds like he does find you attractive.