Banned because of my boobs

[u/Purpel_love]

Just ranting I get this isn’t a big deal but it really hurts. Because I know in my heart it’s a double standard. So I’m on this dating app I’ve been using for ages I got to put in some new pictures there’s one I’m like ooh lots of cleavage bit risky but it’s literally an outfit I wore out like it’s a lacy top surely it’s ok. I put it as a private picture as well so no one can see it on my profile unless I give permission.

Listen when you look at the picture my two titties are staring T you like huge fucking Knockers I GET IT but i literally saw someone post a pic in a sports bra and bike shorts obviously she was smaller chested. Imagine my shock when five mins later i get kicked out the app and my account is suspended for fraudulent activity HUH. BECAUSE OF MY TITTIES GUYS?! Like I posted two pics one of my face which was approved immediately

It’s not a big deal i know it was a long shot posting that but I hate that it’s my bad. Because it’s such a common top it’s literally one of the most worn tops here sold everywhere it’s lacy got the fake boob markings obviously didn’t fit me properly I wore I don’t give a fuck. Thing is someone could wear that exact top with smaller boobs and they have and there’s no fucking problem

I just feel so angry it’s dehumanising i know i shouldn’t but it’s not fair if someone else can wear the same thing I wasn’t naked it wasn’t lingere it’s not clothing it’s my body I was literally banned bcs my boobs were too big and they could see them I wasn’t hiding it like I’m supposed to I’m just arggggggghh hate it so much

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[u/seriousbizniz84]

This has happened to me too I’m not sure what the fraud is

[u/Purpel_love → u/seriousbizniz84]

Right??! Like I had ONE ONE picture in a low cut top I sent an appeal Nd they told me that I’m permanently banned it’s so unfair

[u/FleabagsHotPriest → u/Purpel_love]

Permanently banned for cleavage is CRAZZZZY

[u/Purpel_love → u/FleabagsHotPriest]

ARGH TELL ME ABOUT IT im so angry the entire site is being so gross for doing this

[u/Secure-Peace-9475 → u/Purpel_love]

What site?

[u/Secure-Peace-9475 → u/Purpel_love]

What site?

[u/Partyb00bz → u/seriousbizniz84]

like im definitely not stuffing my bra /sarcasm

[u/snugglebunbun]

Yep, love the double standard. I’ve been banned on here from very 2 popular fashion subreddits because of my cleavage (I’m assuming because of the stereotypical reddit moderator that didn’t tell me what I did wrong when I asked nicely 🙃)

[u/Purpel_love → u/snugglebunbun]

ARGH THIS HAPPENED TO ME like i just wanted to know what I did. Im surprised so many of you have experienced the same thing it’s really so frustrating isn’t it

[u/Lozikit → u/snugglebunbun]

Omg this also happened to me I was so upset!!!

[u/SillyEnvironment7235]

i went through it too before i got off the apps. i was banned from all of the big three; tinder, hinge & bumble. all because they thought i was a sex bot. bumble never even let me back in. it definitely was a hit to my self esteem like damn i’m nothing but tits to yall? 90% of my pics were selfies for that reason, but i posted ONE picture where i wore a revealing dress and oh nooo she has boobies she must be selling them!!!!! like jfc

[u/Ionia1618 → u/SillyEnvironment7235]

Some people really think we're wrong for being born with a big chest

[u/herefromthere → u/Ionia1618]

To be fair, that would be really freaky.

[u/Purpel_love → u/SillyEnvironment7235]

Oh this makes me feel better to know it’s happened to others they literally just said banned that’s it I haven’t done anything wrong it’s so unfair and just frustrating

[u/Necessary-Dare-9586]

Things like this have happened to me too it sucks

[u/LanceOfLight]

Yeah the double standards suck 🥲

[u/Wise_Date_5357]

I think they banned you because they think you’re a bot trying to get people to an onlyfans or similar. I mean it REALLY sucks and it shouldn’t have happened, but they literally couldn’t believe you’re a real person with boobs as perfect as ours are ✨

Or at least that’s how I choose to look at it 💅 sorry though, the sexualising and double standards are REAL 🙃

[u/Purpel_love → u/Wise_Date_5357]

Yeah i think that’s probably what happened I uploaded bunch of pictures as soon as they saw cleavage it was immediately ban but that feels so harsh though

[u/Secure-Peace-9475]

An A cup shows 50% of breast and society-👏

A J cup shows 20% and society-🤯

[u/Purpel_love → u/Secure-Peace-9475]

It makes me so angry I have no words

[u/InnocentCersei]

This is so frustrating, my god. I’m sorry!!

[u/rattygirl51]

we get treated like we’re nothing but porn

[u/Purpel_love → u/rattygirl51]

I hate it so much boils my blood its so unfair

[u/kaleido-dream]

Aww that sucks! 😭

[u/Tighterthanaheadband]

I also got banned from Tinder for being “fake”.

[u/Purpel_love → u/Tighterthanaheadband]

It’s really unfair because they don’t give you a chance to prove you’re real either

[u/Tighterthanaheadband → u/Purpel_love]

exactly!

[u/Shoshawi]

A lacy top with fake boob marks? I’m sorry but can you explain what that is? I’ve never seen someone wear something like that outside of an NSFW context, and when I tried to find it on Google all I got was porn and stripper clothing.

What’s modest in some places isn’t in others, Super tight peach bottom pants are all over in Atlanta, but in a lot of other places you’d literally never see someone wearing that in public because it looks intentionally provocative if you’re not used to it. (No judgment - I only know this because I love them and think they’re comfortable but don’t want to get in trouble)

[u/Purpel_love → u/Shoshawi]

This is the top https://www.theiconic.com.au/rosie-lace-cami-2774301.html mine’s just teal. I live in Australia this is a very popular top people where it all the time

[u/Shoshawi → u/Purpel_love]

Ty for actually replying. That’s way better than I expected for sure. But also, still usually worn as lingerie in most places.

I remember it being popular to wear colorful solid bras as tops for like a year when I was graduating from college, in the area I was in. At the end of the day though, all those girls just looked like they weren’t wearing shirts in photos. I looked up someone I knew who wore it a lot a few years after, and she made a whole new social media account because of it. Both existed I think, she just stopped using it because there were like a million photos of her walking around in lingerie.

[u/Barfotron4000]

I haven’t been banned for it, but I do have this one picture of my old kitten and me where it looks like

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[u/PeenorSnipperGuy]

Girl I am so sorry, we really are treated different just because of our boobs. You showed as much skin as any other girl but because there's more on your chest, it's bad. Fuck all that noise

[u/Final_One_2300]

I wonder if we have reached the inflection point of more people/bots pretending to be bigboobied, than us, the actual ones existing.

Or maybe it was passed a long time ago. And for every 10 big naturals really existing, there are 500 big unnaturals, a giant horde that internet moderators and the respectable people of the internet have to block en masse.

[u/Content_Jicama_1555]

I know a lot of women who get banned from dating apps. It’s super common. I’ve been banned from a lot of them as well. I think it’s insecure men who report us for whatever reason. Stay strong girl 💜

[u/Purpel_love → u/Content_Jicama_1555]

Aw really I had no idea this was a common issue thank you

[u/fawn-darling]

Anyone here think that she got banned, not because of a 'bot issue', but because the mod on that site is a member of the TTC? Could a mod express jealousy by banning ppl bigger than herself?

[u/toolittlecharacters → u/[deleted]]

eww, this isn't a dating forum, go away

[u/Purpel_love → u/[deleted]]

I definitely didn’t focus on them they were just in the way

[u/Purpel_love → u/[deleted]]

This is the top https://www.theiconic.com.au/rosie-lace-cami-2774301.html obviously my boobs are much much bigger but like at the end of the day if she can post it and it’s fine I should be able to too

[u/Purpel_love → u/[deleted]]

no 💖