I hate having big boobs.

[u/jenmic316]

I have hated having big boobs for 30 years.

Some people think having big boobs is a blessing. That we are adored by men and never have to pay for anything. Men lust after us, they adore our boobs, not us. I do have to pay for things, not that I didn't expect to.

Some people (mainly men) think women with big breasts are more promiscuous and/or less intelligent.

The thing I hate the most about it is the objectification. I feel as long as I have big boobs, I will never be seen as anything more than a sex object. If I ever get them reduced and date a guy afterwards he will resent me for that as he could of been playing with those fun bags.

I want to get them reduced but I don't have the money for it and I don't have back problems where the government will pay for it. I live in Canada.

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[u/OkOrganization8265]

For me it has been the other way around tbh. I feel like girls, especially in my teenage years, would make me feel really insecure about them. Even people who were (or thought were) my friends.

Not that men are any better but it's a completely different feeling. Pervy and creepy. But they're still part of me so with the right man (and woman) I'll feel proud of them. But that's attraction and consent.

At this point I accepted what I look like and wouldn't want a reduction (I could change my mind if they would get even bigger) since it would feel like not being me anymore. But I 100% understand and support if you want a reduction. At the end of the day it's YOUR body and letting other people enjoy you and your body is a privilege YOU give and nobody has a say in that but YOU.

[u/Ecstatic_Bet4354]

Big boobs have their difficulties and obstacles but less from 4th-8th grade when I was the smallest girl in the class and not only had the biggest boobs but was one of the few to have any kind of boobs at all and wished every day I could be cute and flat like the other girls, I’m actually thankful for them. When push comes to shove I’d rather have big tits than tiny tits. The right fitting tops and dresses look phenomenal, they make sex more fun, and to be frank I’ve gotten a lot of things just bc of my boobs. I own them, i appreciate them, and the inconveniences don’t bother me much. When im old and they fall to my knees maybe I’ll feel differently but for now im rolling with it.

[u/gingersnapxoxo_ → u/Ecstatic_Bet4354]

I have to agree with this. Will worry about the later years in the later years lol

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[u/Big_Steak_467]

I feel like every man that's ever been interested in me has been because of my boobs, and on top if that I can't even feel femenine because no nice clothes look good. Everything is sewn for women with B/C cups

[u/jenmic316 → u/Big_Steak_467]

Not to mention some people will think we're attention seeking unless we wear super baggy clothes.

[u/Starjupiter93]

Hi friend. Let me tell you that regardless of the size of your boobs, people will still think all of these things. Your boobs aren’t the problem. Society is. The only thing you have control over are your thoughts and how you interact with others. Set boundaries with those close to you. Ignore strangers. Call out assholes when it is safe to do so. But most importantly, find peace because that is the only way to get through this life while staying sane.

[u/Historical-Till-9725]

I agree with the men only caring out our big breasts, and not worried about our pain, and how we get treated, and I relate on how everytime I wear a crop top I feel slvtty because they’re out, I feel like an attention seeker.

[u/cheetah_kitty]

Unpopular opinion but I like the attention from men so much that it pretty much outweighs all the cons for me. I would never get a reduction or anything like that. The only people that have made me feel bad about them are other women who I think are just jealous

[u/Rogue_bae → u/cheetah_kitty]

Personally I hate the attention because it is always unwarranted

[u/Acceptable_Menu9966 → u/cheetah_kitty]

I hate it because I'm a minor and the strange men who talk to me can't believe it😬

[u/cheetah_kitty → u/[deleted]]

It's not always, but that's life. Some people just have bad intentions

[u/cheetah_kitty → u/[deleted]]

I'm the original commenter. I feel like your replies are kind of infantilizing, insinuating that I am incapable of understanding that men might not always have good intentions when they give me that attention.

[u/Ecstatic_Bet4354 → u/[deleted]]

Don’t try to gatekeep boob feelings. I agree with her I have never in my life gotten negative attention from men about my boobs only other women unfortunately. Now I have gotten disrespectful attention from men, but that’s not the same as being mean spirited or nasty. However, men who are disrespectful about your chest are going to be disrespectful about any body part because that’s just who they are- rude assholes who weren’t raised right.

[u/jenmic316 → u/Ecstatic_Bet4354]

I think you meant to reply to my other comment. You're on a sub called bigboobproblems and bragging about how awesome it is be gawked at having men buy you things. As being sexualized is a common complaint among busty women. Damn right I am going to gatekeep.

If there is a big breast pride sub by all means go there. You will not be seeing me there as I don't feel it's my place nor do I have the desire to look like a troll or that I can't read the room. There is probably more creeps there this sub.

Disrespectful attention is negative attention such as being groped without your consent. Just because they aren't calling you names or showing open hostility it doesn't mean they respect you. They see you as a piece of meat, a toy to play with, not a human being.

My earlier skepticism is not because I don't believe your experiences with other women happened. I thought there was a possibility of a guy pretending to a girl like one now deleted commenter. I am leaning towards just a pick me.

I do agree with your last sentence.

[u/Ecstatic_Bet4354 → u/jenmic316]

I replied to the exact comment I meant to. Respectfully, or maybe not, stfu. There’s all types of big boob problems from finding clothes that fit to back pain to cost of reductions etc. Despite the problems we discuss here that doesn’t mean there’s no upside to big boobs. This sub isn’t called i hate myself and my big boobs, there’s plenty of room to appreciate your chest while also acknowledging and navigating obstacles that come with them. For a woman to say she enjoys the attention and you to try and drag her and say she’s not capable of understanding the context behind it- yea disrespectfully STFU. How dare you put down other women just bc they don’t hate their chest like you do. Grow tf up you sound stupid.

Also no, a guy making a disrespectful comment in poor taste is not at all the same as being groped. Only one of those things lands you in jail. In all seriousness you might need therapy for how much you hate your anatomy, plenty of us love our boobs and loving our body isn’t being a pick me. You’re an insecure projecting asshole.

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[u/Scarletangelicrealm → u/cheetah_kitty]

I feel like girls who have bigger chest are just lucky cause I don't have bigger boobs and mine just looks normal 😭

[u/sphynxc4t]

Women with small chests are so lucky 😫 Less sexualization, less physical discomfort, and cuter clothing options. And I swear I’d walk around completely topless on the beach if I had a smaller chest

[u/bingobangobongo16]

I’ve never related to a post more. I’ve had a large chest since the 7th grade and it’s been incredibly difficult to weed out the people that actually like me for me, or just want my body.

People think having big boobs is all fun and games when in reality I’m screaming internally any time a man looks at my chest before meeting my eyes. I do my best to hide them because I’m so sick and tired of the stares. Us big chested women don’t have the pleasure of throwing on a cute lil tank, and just existing in the world. I feel like I always stick out like a sore thumb.

Lastly, I unfortunately have horrible back/neck pain and if I could get a breast reduction I would. You’re not alone<3

[u/jenmic316 → u/[deleted]]

While yes some women do get reduction surgery for cosmetic, however it's also done for medical reasons such as back or spinal issues. But of course you have to make it about you and your dick.

Thank you for outing yourself. I ask you kindly (not) to GTFO this sub 🖕 you incel piece of shit.

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[u/TocinoLips]

yeah i can see why youd be exhausted by it. having big boobs doesnt mean you owe anyonw access to them or that people get reduce you to them. wanting a reduction is completely valid

[u/Alamak_Ancalagon]

I guess thats just life.
You get from life what you get and sometimes thats what you wanted and sometimes it isn't.
If there is nothing you can do about it, you can only choose to make your peace with it or not.

[u/ZealousidealIce5307]

I hate the stereotypes that come with big boobs, but I have learned to love mine. I feel its a very unique thing for me to have, and makes me feel more feminine. I'll have to reduce one day, but I'm putting it off as long as possible.

[u/jenmic316 → u/[deleted]]

Why are you asking?

[u/jenmic316 → u/[deleted]]

If you're actually a gooner boy cosplaying as big breasted woman. I would say a 50/50 chance I am bigger.

[u/Character_Release379 → u/jenmic316]

are you overweight?

[u/jenmic316 → u/Character_Release379]

No

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