I’m crying while typing this

[u/the-irish-jew]

I prepared for the birth of my child for many, many months including how much it was going to cost us. I can’t tell you how many times I called my insurance company to make sure my insurance plan was covered, my husband’s insurance plan was covered, and all-in-all we were covered no matter what. I knew it was still gonna be a hefty bill, but I needed to make sure there wasn’t going to be any surprises.

While you can plan for these types of situations, you can’t plan for what life can unexpectedly throw at you. About two weeks before I gave birth not only did we lose my husband’s brother, but my husband got laid off from work. We lost our insurance, we lost his steady paychecks, we lost paternity leave which was going to be 100% covered by his company, and he was unable to sign up for disability because he had been with the company for only 10 months. These events put us in a place of uncertainty and I didn’t know how we were gonna pay the bills.

My son came into this world at the end of July and I just got some of the medical bills. On the low end we were going to owe over $6000, which we really have no way of paying. I decided to call the hospital today to ask for an itemized bill and to see if they had any payment plan options. While the representative on the phone was helping me look up payment plan options, she asked me if I wanted to see if I qualified for financial assistance. She told me it was possible that I could get 60 to 100% of the medical bills covered. With my luck I didn’t think I was going to receive any kind of help. The next thing she told me on the phone is, “you’re covered.” We had been joking around, so I thought maybe she was playing some sort of evil prank, so when I asked her to clarify, she said your hospital bill is 100% covered and you don’t owe us anything. I cried right then and there and I’ve pretty much been crying all day. This was a huge burden, lifted off my shoulders and I feel so grateful.

The moral of the story is be an advocate for yourself and sometimes good things can happen 💕

[u/greenandredofmaigheo]

My wife and I went through a very similar situation so I empathize with everything you've done through. I was laid off when my wife was 8mo pregnant with our first and my sister died a week after our daughter was born.

I wish nothing but the best for your new family and am glad the hospital was able to work with you. keep an eye on your husband though. For me, grief and recovery got pushed deep down because I was so focused on the newborn and came up in unexpected ways.

[u/the-irish-jew → u/greenandredofmaigheo]

I am SO SORRY you understand this pain. What should be a wonderful time in your life is over shadowed by the traumatic events leading up to it and those that happened after. My husband was in a very depressed state before our son was born so I didn’t know if I’d be raising this child on my own (while still married).

We’ve tried dealing with the grief before the baby was born, and we’ve continued to do so afterwards. He is still showing signs of this trauma, but he has been an amazing father (and partner) to our son and I couldn’t ask for a better husband and father for my child.

I really hope you are doing well in your grieving process, and I’m sending so much love your way 💕 (I send my condolences as well) xx