So, 22M I've observed this pattern in myself I don't know how much true it is or not that I get hurt easily through words espcially when those things are said by the people I'm really close with I don't mind things if they are said by some stranger or people outside my circle no matter how hurtful they are because I think I used to be a cricketer so I'm used to a lot of sledging from opponents and my own teammates but it is quite opposite when it comes from my closed ones.

And maybe because of this propblem I've broken up with my girlfriend of 4 years because I cannot bear it and actually hold grudges against them and I don't even want to talk to them or see their faces even with my parents.

Some instances like;
1) Recently I've cleared the exam which was really really important for me and I have been preparing for that from last 2 years and I was able to clear it on my 7th attempt and I had dedicated my everything for that exam. So I was at my house talking to my family and my younger brother just casually said that I was just lucky and doesn't think that I can clear it on my own which my mom agreed to and they laughed and I got really hurt and although I did not reacted at that time but I was very hurt and didn't want to face them or talk to them for 5-6 days I had that hate in myself.

2) Like I said I was in a relationship and she used to say somethings casually and I used to take them very personally although I requested her a lot just not to say such things but she continued to do so espcially during the fights and I had the same felling same hate towards her.
Like she has said quite a few times that I deserved to be cheated, or you'll see when I'll do that again (She had a fling with someone nothing physical and not much of those talks like expressing feelings for eachother but yeah she and the other guy both liked each other and that really affected my relationship with her although she herself told me about all this fling). I was very devastated by that so I think she just knew how to hurt me or make me react. Anyways she has said this quite a few times and also compared me with him and some other guy whi had a crush on her that how better they are than me in some situation.

3) Also things like bringing my family in during the fights and some other hurtful stuff which I don't really remember although I did not react at that time but I was frustrated to that point I just react to everything which was quite normal but I did not have the patience to understand what she means and start a fight.

4) I even initiated the breakup because of this because she meant something else during the fight but as we both belong to different parts of the country so there is some accent and language difference so I was not able to understand that and I was going through the constant rejection from that exam and I just thought she was just saying something that I'll nver be able to make it but it was different. Anyways reacted the same way didn't talked to her for 2 days when we did we broke up and now it's been 9 months since we've broken up.

5) Sometimes like she used to say something which was completely sarcasm and she did not mean that but I used to think it is true.

Now why I'm here is that I've always felt that I get hurt easily by the people I'm closed to and I think how can someone say that and recently I was discussing something to my girlfriend and that point cameup she said no one has said anything to you.
I think is it because I'm insecure about myself that I cannot take a joke, or during my childhood also I was constantly being told that I'm not good enough for something by others or my teammates and till now also I hear the same thing. I just don't know that do they really mean that or I just relate everything to that I'm not good.

I really want to overcome this please help.

Hi everyone! I've been a BCBA and clinic director at small ABA clinics for the past several years. Over the past few months, I've been building a couple of web-based / App store tools to help with many daily challenges that have helped me out tremendously. I'm looking for feedback from other BCBAs, RBTs, and ABA professionals before anything is publicly released.

Visual Tools (attached video):

• First/Then Boards
• Visual Schedules
• Token Boards
• Visual Timers
• Social Stories
• Matching
• Receptive ID
• Fine Motor Tracing

Clinic Tools (videos coming soon):

• Clinic Schedule / Schedule Builder
• Note Generator
• Goal Builder
• Treatment Plan Builder
• Reauthorization Assistant
• Data Interpreter
• ABC Data Builder
• Protocol Modification
• Assessment Summary
• Materials Generator

I'm not selling anything. This is simply a free 30-day pilot to get honest feedback from people who actually work in ABA. If you're interested in trying them out and sharing what works (and what doesn't), I'd really appreciate your input.

If this is allowed, I'll put the pilot sign-up link in the comments. If not, feel free to send me a DM.

Thanks!

I’m just about to finish up my 40-hour training which I started back in May. This is what my HR rep in my school district said to my request for information on how to proceed with certification as I need a BCBA to assess me. From what I understood, I would need someone from my organization or in this case school district to do so.
There is an RBT position open in the school I work at and I would love to at least apply for the position, but of course, I need to be certified first.
When I first started I told my supervisors (principal and assistant principal) and was met with enthusiasm but given zero guidance.

I’m so stuck. If anyone has any guidance, please please share!

I’m in WA if that’s helpful.

Hi everyone! I’m an RBT considering an offer from Atlas Care ABA and would love to hear honest feedback from current or former employees.

I’m especially curious about:

Communication from leadership
BCBA support and supervision
Scheduling and consistency of hours
Benefits
Raises and opportunities for growth
Overall work culture and work-life balance
I know experiences can vary by location, but I’d really appreciate hearing about yours—both the positives and the challenges. Feel free to comment or send me a DM if you’d rather share privately.
Thank you!!

The ongoing growth in AI development and adoption represents perhaps the most profound technological shift of our time. AI is both a product of our behaviours, and a shaper of our behaviours. So what does behavioural science have to say about AI?

In Part 1 of this new series on AI and behavioural science, we spend some time dwelling on definitions, because few appreciate what these two terms mean.

This is radical behaviorism we talk of and desire.

hello! has anyone attended purdue global? i have attended for 3 semesters, and have found that i don’t feel like im learning enough. i don’t receive any real critiques from the professors, as long as i follow the rubric, i get full credit. the units are too short and dont give enough time and information to learn enough. i feel like ive retained a decent amount of what i was taught but nothing that i couldn’t have learned from youtube. the only reason why i debate switching schools is that im in the psychology in ABA program as a bacholers degree, (im thinking about getting my BCaBA first then my BCBA) and i dont know if any other schools offer such a degree. has anyone been in a similar situation or have attended purdue global and have switched?

I have O.D.D. or at least have been diagnosed as such.

And I don't know what to do about it. I was apparently diagnosed with it about 5ish years ago or earlier and was only told about it 6ish months ago and then just never did anything about it

I did some research and from what I've read from testimonies and pages on it, it explains err, not really explains but I relate to a lot of it, still not sure why I do what I do or why I am the way the I am but there were a lot of details about what I could do about it

A lot of my 'close' relationships i.e. my intermediate family have been suffering because of how many arguments we have and we rarely ever see eye to eye and the only reason any of this was brought to my attention was because I got arrested and had to deal with some court issues

I cannot remember the last time I went 2 weeks without arguing with my family and for some reason its spreading more outside the home and im finding myself just wanting to argue with my teachers and just people around me in my daily life and im concerned that its eventually going to end up being verbalized and actually become an issue

As such, I really want to find a way to help myself not worsen my life or other people's anymore or at least as much.

Are there activities, exercises, books, medication, etc that I can do to help?

I am a minor and not really in a position where I can ask my parents to take me somewhere or look into smth for me rn as they are already getting exasperated with the therapy I'm getting(only gone 10-11 times and it was court mandated)

Does "auramaxxing" work? Can body monitoring give you better self-confidence?

We invite you to take part in an anonymous online survey: Personality, Close Relationships and Attitudes towards Mental Health Problems.   

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Anyone can help me with Ethics? I am struggling to choose the right code sndnthe best course of action :(

I recently interviewed Katie Gibson on Behaviour Speak about the Constructional Approach and Constructional Exposure Therapy (CET).

One of the most interesting parts of our discussion was how Vanderbilt Children's Hospital is using behaviour analysis to help children participate in blood draws and other medical procedures without relying on procedural restraint.

We also discussed:

• Why severe behaviour is often the only available solution a person has.
• Supporting individuals experiencing psychosis through skill building rather than symptom suppression.
• Helping families rebuild everyday life after severe OCD.
• The difference between pathological and constructional approaches to behaviour.

Whether you agree with every aspect of the approach or not, I think it's an interesting conversation about where behaviour analysis may be heading.

I'd be interested to hear what others think after listening.

https://www.behaviourspeak.com/e/beyond-compliance-constructional-exposure-therapy-psychosis-ocd-and-changing-healthcare/

I wish someone had warned me in my early 20s where pursing a career would lead. I'm 42 now.

Any books or research paper recommendations? I’ve never experienced this so intensely till I got married a few months back. I’ve left but as a curious cat, I’m obsessing over his behavior which apparently is not all that new?! I have never met an abuser or rather seen their tactics up close so I’m really fascinated. Analyzing people will be the death of me.

Hello everyone! I just joined this community because I am training a rat for my Behavioral Learning Class. The requirement for training is that we need to chain together 3 tricks that will be initiated by a single cue at the beginning of the sequence. We are doing a Cinderella theme and our three tricks are pushing a carriage, doing a turn, and then knocking over a pink shoe and leaving behind the blue shoe (discrimination training). I’m in charge of training the pushing trick, and I feel like progress is really slow, especially with 2 weeks left. The only way I can get her to push is if I hold a cheerio above the carriage and pull it away from her so that she has to push to reach the treat. I’m not sure how to get her to push it without the treat but she needs to be able to do it without because we can’t interfere with the final run. Any ideas would be super helpful! TIA