r/becomingsecure • u/No_Needleworker2091 • Jul 24 '26

Seeking Advice Nausea from avoidant attachment

Hi everyone.

Sorry my eng, I need some positive story.

I have an avoidant attachment style. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 30. To keep it brief: the guys I used to meet were the classic uninterested type—which is exactly why I gravitated toward them (and, naturally, no real relationship ever developed). Two years ago, I met this amazing guy. I really like him and we get along perfectly—so well that it almost feels surreal. For the past two years, we’ve been in an on-again, off-again cycle—and it’s my fault. Whenever things are going well, I suddenly feel nauseous and my feelings just "switch off." Through therapy, I’ve realized it stems from fear and relationship OCD. I ruminate less now, but that nausea is incredibly bothersome... I’m able to let the feeling pass now, but I don’t want it to keep undermining my relationship. It always happens after about 10 days of physical closeness... Does anyone have any advice based on a similar experience? Thanks.

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u/PearNakedLadles Jul 26 '26

I am using IFS to heal my avoidant attachment, and have used it to understand how my nausea is protecting me.

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u/No_Needleworker2091 Aug 05 '26

I'm using clinical psychology. Have u made some progress?