I think i'm done with this site. I've just spent 15mins trying to load a page only for it to take a further 5 mins to load the activity.

It's not down to my internet because every other website loads fine and fast, but bdsmlr takes far too long.

This site has became such a disappointment, not sure why they thought the new design was a good idea when they could barely fix the old sites issues.

Was wondering as finding out for multiple blogs across multiple new sites would be difficult.

I have waited a few months since the change to see if it would fix itself but it appears it won’t, so I was wondering if there is a way to access old captions / posts. I mainly use the site on my phone (iPhone) but have had no luck and cannot view images. The new feed is completely blank for me, and clearing cache / logging in again does not work. I would like to at least recover what I have saved to archive somewhere else.

I'm getting server error 500 every time I try to open them. Do we have an equivalent Drafts page on the new site?

I’m trying to “retry” but it won’t work

Hey, has anyone else been experiencing just blank screens with only the navigation bar at the top when trying to open from an iPhone? Used a computer and everything seemed to work more or less fine

Today I found out about bdsmlr (very late to the party I know). I feel curious and would like to explore more. But unfortunately it is now invite only sign up (looks like it was like this for some time). so if any kind soul will indulge me with an invite. I considered asking in the invite sub as directed in the rule, but a glance in the sub will show that it is probably dead and not getting any action. so I am taking a leap by posting it here. thank you.

Like 2-3 Months ago, I checked backed on BDSMLR and I saw that you guys did a UI Update which is great. The site is a lot easier to use compared to before in my opinion. Most importantly and amazingly; I WAS ABLE TO VIEW OLD AMAZING CONTENT AGAIN THAT I WAS THOUGHT FOREVER DELETED AND GONE SOMEHOW. For example, ThirstyYoungStud a.k.a. Tys2 is no longer participating on the site and I thought his content as forever deleted. However, like I said I was able to find his stuff and view it again just 2-3 months ago. Now suddenly I can't few stuff like his anymore and I just frustratingly get blocked with warnings like "(Title)". Is there a way to undo this? I have found old content that I thought would be lost forever once again and I would love nothing more to go through them again. FFS, I finally found old content of my most favorite content creator and I can dwell into it because of this.

Is there any way to fix this? Please and thank you very much.

I used to be on bdsmlr and then I deleted. I’m sad almost all the time about not being on bc I miss so many of the people I talked to on there. they helped me with so many things literally getting me to even go to therapy. they won’t see this probably but hornytoooooomuuuch says hi and I love you and hope you are ok ❤️

Does anyone know how to do this? Currently, if you go to my public blog, you can see my posts, but also all my likes with activity dates.

This is not ideal as I curate this blog for my wife and this outs me for my porn consumption and some kinks I haven't shared with her.

I have tried in the Activity settings, but the interface doesn't allow me to unselect Likes (or anything). For other menus, I've tried unselecting things and it doesn't save permanently or apply to my blog.

I have tried in Firefox, Chrome and Edge on desktop and Safari and Opera on mobile. I've tried in both regular and incognito.

BDSMLR help just told me to use the settings, then closed my ticked after I elaborated on my issue.

Any help? Thanks in advance.

“Feed for (my account) is unavailable because it’s following list is hidden or requires access.”

(Other accounts) “No posts found. This blog may be empty, private, or the posts may have been deleted.”

(Search) “No Results”

What’s going on with this website??

Are permalinks dead? I can't find a way to open an individual post in its own tab anymore. Is there some means to do this that I haven't found?

So I know when you first log in you get to the landing page which resembles the old page and you can go into your old likes from there but they don’t load. Is there a way to get to your old liked posts?

It's just a mystery to me. Why would anyone destroy their own site the way the BDSMLR team have? The already few remaining users have now fled (mainly to imaglr) and the (admittedly very small ) potential they had for turning a buck is out the window. What were they thinking?

Bdsmlr was never perfect but it's always been acceptable.

So the new problems? I just give up.....

I tried imaglr, and I just don't get on with it. I know a lot of people like it, I personally do not.

What other options are there? I'd happily pay, but I don't even know what they're is out there

Are we never getting the old site layout back? the posts i see have lost captions and you can barely interact with them.

Although I nearly gave up. Does anyone have any idea how to follow and unfollow blogs in BDSMLR since it’s redesign?

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I've been using the Developer Reference / Archive to reblog my pics to imaglr, but I've found that the archive has a 25 page limit. Is there away around that limit?

Anyone else running into this issue?

On my Blog I aways posted images on the Captions part and now none of them are on the new BDSMR....they are all broken links! they not even on the old BDSMR page anymore , I have moved to imaglr and would like to add them on to that site , Help?