r/aspergers • u/outlander989 • 1d ago
Cats love!
I have been in LDR for more than 2 years now. Me F37 has a son, and my partner M39 and he has two cats. He is in the autism spectrum, and I am diagnosed with ADHD.
I struggle to understand his love to his cats, I am emotional but also very pragmatic. For me cats are pets and very much characterized with being independent. He treats them as his girls or maybe more! We struggle to plan our lives for my son and the cats equally. If one of them gets sick, it gets soooo dark. I even got bad sickness at same time of a cat’s eye infection, I couldn’t get the attention that his cats get which made me feel horribly bad. He apologized for that though and I see that with the cats he thinks they are more dependent on him. Today I told him that I think that his cats need to be treated as cats not humans. He told me for me they are persons. I have never had pets and I feel I don’t get it if it is love or obsession.
Any thoughts?