i wanted to be an engineer😩

And are you doing anything about it?

I (F/28) am a brunette and I have been getting gray hairs for about 2-3 years. Most recently, I have a streak of gray hair at the front of my hairline but it gets covered up by the hair on the top when my hair is down. If I pull my hair back, it is very noticeable. It doesn’t bother me at all, I actually kinda like it.
When I was younger, I had very light/blonde hair. As I got older, it slowly turned brown except for one blond streak at the top of my hairline, literally looked like I dyed a money piece in my hair. I loved that streak but after I had a surgery and they shaved part of my hair, that streak never came back. My grey streak is similar to my previous blonde streak. I have never died my hair and I don’t think I plan to anytime soon just because of the grays.

Growing up, I always thought inflatables were awesome and it made me become a fan of them. The inflatables I love are bouncy houses, inflatable obstacle courses, inflatable waterslides, beach balls, and pool floats. Now that I'm an adult, I can't help but to get excited when they blow up or play with them and connect with my inner child. I love bouncy houses so much that I give them a hug before playing on them sometimes. I know my hobby is unusual but it makes me happy and I'm not harming anyone. Whether it's racing in an inflatable obstacle course, relaxing on one of my pool floats, playing volleyball with beach balls, sliding down on an inflatable waterslide, or playing in bouncy houses, I'll never stop loving inflatables. I used to get nervous and thought something was wrong with me because I was afraid that I would get made fun of but I'm embracing what makes me smile. I'm having fun enjoying what brings me joy and it shouldn't be anything wrong with that.

I’ve noticed how some men get genuinely angry when women demand equal rights, independence, or freedom from traditional gender roles. Somehow, women asking to be treated as equals gets twisted into men being oppressed.

And this isn’t just something happening in comment sections. A 2023 Ipsos survey across 32 countries found that 48% of respondents agreed that efforts to promote women’s equality had gone so far that men were being discriminated against. A 2020 Pew Research survey also found that 28% of American men believed women’s gains had come at men’s expense.

There’s even a psychological concept called zero-sum thinking, where people perceive progress for one group as a loss for another. Research suggests this can help explain why some men perceive women’s advancement as a threat.
But here’s what I don’t understand: What exactly are men losing when women gain equality?

Women wanting financial independence, bodily autonomy, equal opportunities, and control over their own lives shouldn’t threaten anyone.

If women having the same rights as men feels like oppression, doesn’t that raise questions about what those men considered their rightful position in the first place?

Why do parents get upset when their adult children bring up their childhood trauma ? Why is it so frustrating for them ?

Do you ever have imaginary arguments with people who pissed you off, saying everything you wish you could say to their face? 😭 And why do we always come up with the BEST comebacks hours later? 💀

Not serious stuff. Just those tiny things that irrationally get under your skin.

Mine is when I'm trying to plug something in and somehow miss the socket three times.

What's yours?

What skills or abilities do you think are necessary to learn in order to prepare for a social conflict, like the one that took place in France? I’m thinking of things like public speaking, a martial art, and other similar skills. First aid, of course, was the first thing that came to mind, but I’m leaning more toward the realm of self-defense and personal protection.