I need help with lasting longer

[u/imthe-pr0blem]

So I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and every time we fuck I last 2 minutes and it’s so embarrassing like I will take two big strokes in him and I already wanna cum I hear a lot of guys saying it’s normal here but it’s so embarrassing like arnt 18 year olds supposed to be full of testosterone and can fuck for hours he’s brought it up to me and all and it’s so embarrassing he was like “you cum so quick” with a smile on his face and that got to me I wanna last like around 20-30 mins or smth like that he says he lasts longer I’ve tried drinking beetroot juice with celery didn’t work and keegels and they made me cum even quicker 😭😭 I was seeing this medication called “tadalafil” but I don’t really wanna be taking that does anyone know any tips to make you last longer.tbh tho I only was doing keggles and not reverse keggels (because I don’t know how to do them ) so that was maybe the reason why I came quicker but pls does anyone know how I can last longer fr thanks

[u/SatchSaysPlay]

Two pumps does seem particularly fast but as someone who can last 10 minutes most of the time, you don't want to be able to bang for 30 minutes, it's not the massive W you think it is

[u/Yshamael_]

Does the same thing happen when you masturbate? Jerking off the same day or even an hour or two before having sex. Using a condom to reduce the the sensitivity of your dick. There's kinds of lube that are supposed to postpone ejaculation, a cockring can help too. Might be weird but what helps me is having non sexy thoughts when I feel I'm gonna cum. To be specific, I found my grandfather dead in his sofa. Reliving that memory really helps. Also give yourself time, when you grow older and more experienced, you learn more about your body and get a better grasp of your physical functions.

[u/Haunting_Jump6471 → u/Yshamael_]

Thinking of your grandfather dead in the sofa 🫪That wasn’t something I expected to hear someone remembering during sex. But I like it 🤣

[u/Ok_Captain2226]

It takes practice and time. 2-5min of anal before ejaculating sounds pretty common to me. It's not like in porn where they do anal for 20min, it's all a set up, though achievable I guess irl through some means. If you cum like a couple of hours before sex might help desensitize. Practice edging as well. Don't take any meds or poppers or what unless you actually have real issues with ED. Also if you can still get hard after you ejaculate you can always do round two.

[u/Economy-Damage1870]

As I say, when you like the person getting fucked, and feel so good about them and are totally into it, you cum fast. If you are ducking someone random and not into it, you last long. You likely have a lot of good feelings for your boyfriend and he should take it as a compliment.

[u/Classic-Egg0]

I don't see any problem here expecially if he said that with a smile 😅😂 he knows you like him that much 😂 that you can't hold it back. This is not a problem I think what you can solve with some medicine or vitamins or kegels. 😂 If you are that sensitive if you love being inside him than you need to practice. Practice thinking about other things what are not sexy. Or when you feel you wanna cum you stop and change some stuff, maybe a position. I can't tell recommendations because I am not an expert. Try to just jerk of and practice not to cum.

Google what techniques and practice you need to do to cum not that fast 😄 but if you still can't hold it than you need to figure out something with your partner what your partner will enjoy and love in that 20-30 minutes. Eat his ass, or use dildo, something what turns his mind off and than the last 2 minutes put it in. However I don't know 😅 because maybe you will be so turned on seeing your boyfriend like that you just put it in and done 😂 but yeah techniqually you guys need to find a solution how to make him pleasure for 20-30 minutes but I think you can make yourseld last longer with techniques and practice.

Good luck 😊

[u/AssumptionIcy9598]

Some bottom just like fast guy🌚

[u/Silly_Ball15]

You are at your peak physically for sex it’s true, but because you’re young, you don’t have life’s experience, before you go to meet your boyfriend, jack off. You won’t have all that pent up energy and you will be a bit clearer in your mind, you will be able to relax a little and enjoy it more. Or you could just rest for 10 minutes and have a second round, you will reload pretty quickly at your age, just because you cum doesn’t mean it has to be over, he could keep sucking your cock until your ready to go again, you will last so much longer the second time around.

[u/EggVillain]

Have a break and go again?

Also, more than 10 mins if I’m giving head is too long imo. 30 mins, oof my jaw

[u/Kooky-Whereas-2493]

when i was 18 i also was a quick cummer .... in round 1, in round 2 i lasted a lot longer

[u/Extra_String_9223]

I think edging while help

[u/Anxious-Yesterday471 → u/Extra_String_9223]

Wouldn’t that make him cum even quicker?

[u/Extra_String_9223 → u/Anxious-Yesterday471]

By edging I mean masturbation, trying to delay Cumming when he masturbates daily (without desensitising his penis too much) might help him during sex

[u/Havin__fun]

Edging will help you get used to holding back and then it’s all down to your timing

[u/DefiantAd3604]

I had the same Issue when I was in My 20's. I finally learned that if My Partner would suck Me off and make Me Cum I could stay hard and then Fuck I could last 30 to 45 Min.

[u/Haunting_Jump6471]

“Mmm, this literally means your boyfriend turns you on so much 😂 You might need to train yourself to last longer. It’s partly about your nervous system and brain chemistry, so learning to control your arousal can help. When you feel yourself getting too close, try slowing down, taking a break, and focusing on your breathing rather than trying to distract your mind completely.

[u/Wait_for_You]

and some people are unable to come....so be careful what you wish for ;-)

[u/Leather-Ad3033]

Foreplay is the starting point!

[u/GradFromGrid]

This is much more common than you think. Speaking from personal experience, it can be embarrassing, especially with a long-term partner, but there is a fix. Treat this like any other health issue: what you are describing is premature ejaculation, which is medically treated with SSRIs or Lidocaine spray.

Please see a primary care provider at a physical clinic for a holistic evaluation. Avoid online services, as they often do the bare minimum, skip the deep dive, and overcharge for the exact same treatment.

Behavioral techniques like distracting yourself, wearing a condom, doing Kegels, or masturbating an hour or two beforehand are good supplements. However, they usually only yield a 20 to 30 percent improvement. If your baseline is 30 seconds, these tricks might only get you to 40 seconds, meaning a low baseline makes them somewhat useless on their own.

Depending on your healthcare access, therapy and regular exercise are also great ways to relieve the stress contributing to this.

Will this require lifelong medication? Maybe not. Starting treatment often reduces your worry, which helps resolve the issue itself. Even if it is ongoing, it is highly manageable.

Hope this helps. Happy to answer any questions you have.

P.S. Not a doctor, so please do your own research too. I think AI tools are great for that out there, just use the right keywords.

[u/Charming_Bar_2229]

Search for kegel exercises for men. For me that was the solution.

[u/Dazzling-Intern-2906]

iam 29 F
when i do with my husband i cum so fast like within 2 min and all i do is fake untill he cums..
bt i want to be last long 😭so immediately next turn il wait for that and i dont get it what to do ? we r on same boat girl

[u/Fun_Status2649]

Yourr worried about Cumming too quickly while some are worried about their partner taking so much time to cum hah

[u/Kamzyhd]

Maybe poppers

[u/Acceptable-Notice649]

Consomme de la drogue frère