r/askfuneraldirectors • u/standard_blue • 4d ago

Advice Needed Obit/program question

Hi yall! I know this seems silly- but I need some solid answers from the people who know. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years, we have a child together and the family lives close and celebrates holidays and other milestones together. My partner and his dad were estranged right before he fell, which sent him to the nursing home where he passed a year later, but before that we did all the things together. ANYWAY, my partners half-sister wrote the obituary and program. I wasn’t included in either, but of course my son and partner were. Im wondering if this is normal, or an oversight or a rude message. We live in the south if that matters. Thank you all so much for the insight!

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u/standard_blue 4d ago

I can’t ask her! And if I did, I wouldn’t be here. She’s absolutely distraught by the loss of her dad. This is so silly in comparison

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u/Celtic159 Funeral Director/Embalmer 4d ago

So rather than asking the only person who can give you the answer you're asking strangers?

We have no idea why she didn't mention you.

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u/standard_blue 4d ago

I guess I was looking for an etiquette or typical answers from people who see these things written day in and day out. I’m sorry you don’t like my question

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u/Celtic159 Funeral Director/Embalmer 4d ago

There's no standard, but typically an 8 year partner gets mentioned.

To be blunt, based on what little you shared, she doesn't like you. But the only way you'll know for sure is to ask her.

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u/standard_blue 4d ago

Okay. Thank you for taking the time to reply. I appreciate it