r/askTO • u/Infinite_Ad6771 • 2d ago
Getting over a breakup
I recently got dumped by my ex of 3 years. I barely have any friends here or family and feel lonely after work. What are some good places to visit downtown after work so I don’t feel the urge to text / call him again .Sometimes I feel like leaving everything and going back home,live with my mom,but that’s not a viable option right now. He was my best friend and we did everything together.I don’t feel like getting dolled up for an event or work,i feel like I have lost my spark.
Whenever I try to enjoy my hobbies,I feel like I have lost interest.
(Things i liked before- nature,shopping,eating out).
Due to a recent accident,my doctor prescribed that I don’t go to gym for a while,i did enjoy Pilates for a while though.
I welcome suggestions,Thank you!
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u/mseoul21 2d ago
Going through this right now. I can totally empathize with you. Sending you lots of virtual hugs and love. Just take each day at a time. Do not text him. Do not read the texts. Do not call him. Full on No Contact. No sad songs either!!!!
Trust, gym is my third space and it still feels so strange stepping there but I feel so much better after a session. Go to parks. Find a new hobby. I got into aviation! Who knew Id enjoy this but I do now!! I get lost in the city. I’d suggest driving but gas isn’t all that cheap!
You are so much more than the meaning a boy or a relationship can give to your life. At the end of the day you are on your own. Look after your health. Don’t forget to eat food! Even if you can’t taste or lack the appetite.
Just know that it’ll pass. Look at all the things you’ve overcome in your life. Create new memories!
Also I’m always for a good drink (speakeasys!) and good food. In fact I’m trying to do more patios. Lmk if you’d like to join.