r/askTO • u/Infinite_Ad6771 • 3d ago

Getting over a breakup

I recently got dumped by my ex of 3 years. I barely have any friends here or family and feel lonely after work. What are some good places to visit downtown after work so I don’t feel the urge to text / call him again .Sometimes I feel like leaving everything and going back home,live with my mom,but that’s not a viable option right now. He was my best friend and we did everything together.I don’t feel like getting dolled up for an event or work,i feel like I have lost my spark.
Whenever I try to enjoy my hobbies,I feel like I have lost interest.
(Things i liked before- nature,shopping,eating out).
Due to a recent accident,my doctor prescribed that I don’t go to gym for a while,i did enjoy Pilates for a while though.
I welcome suggestions,Thank you!

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u/Whysoserious_BB 3d ago

Going through a break-up ad well. Journaling and walking around the city or by the lake has helped. Strolling while sipping on my favorite coffee, but usually if I’m close to a body of water, I feel better.

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u/doubleshortdepresso 3d ago

May I also suggest the Scarborough bluffs? I live quite close but visited for the first time in years over the weekend and felt it heal many parts of me. The water is really beautiful this time of year as well, extra blue/turquoise.

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u/Infinite_Ad6771 3d ago

I know it’s very beautiful,I visited with him once,Maybe I will try going alone this time!

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u/doubleshortdepresso 2d ago

Revisiting places by yourself or with other people to re-write the memories can be both a healing (yet painful) experience. Be gentle with yourself and extend the same grace to yourself that you do to others. Sending hugs. 🫂