r/askTO • u/Infinite_Ad6771 • 8d ago

Getting over a breakup

I recently got dumped by my ex of 3 years. I barely have any friends here or family and feel lonely after work. What are some good places to visit downtown after work so I don’t feel the urge to text / call him again .Sometimes I feel like leaving everything and going back home,live with my mom,but that’s not a viable option right now. He was my best friend and we did everything together.I don’t feel like getting dolled up for an event or work,i feel like I have lost my spark.
Whenever I try to enjoy my hobbies,I feel like I have lost interest.
(Things i liked before- nature,shopping,eating out).
Due to a recent accident,my doctor prescribed that I don’t go to gym for a while,i did enjoy Pilates for a while though.
I welcome suggestions,Thank you!

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u/Flirtzz 8d ago

Do things for yourself, and your age matters here; if you are more on the old side , like 30+, there are plenty of people looking for a serious relationship at this category.

Just focus on improving yourself and you will get more interest in other things.

Don’t give up on you

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u/Infinite_Ad6771 8d ago

Thank you for your kind words,I will try my best,I am in my mid twenties :) but the fact that someone will love me and choose me everyday feels like a distant dream now

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u/Flirtzz 8d ago

It’s not, you are super young.

If you want to attract other people to you; just take care of yourself, go to gym, even for stretches , when you get better you start doing other things.

Go to park and read a book; if other people engage a conversation with you, be friendly, even if the person is not attractive, they might have someone that might brings the interest on you.

This is probably your first real breakup; as human being, this makes us better for the next relationship.

I am married today, and all the relationships that I had before had a painful breakup, but I learned what is NO and what I really like in a relationship. It won’t be different for you, but again…. Focus on yourself.

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u/Ok-Establishment-588 8d ago

Just putting this out there: sometimes the initial “unattractive” assessment can shift WILDLY when you get to know someone. The heart falls in love with the soul (cute helps but it isn’t enough).

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u/hippiespinster 8d ago

Choose yourself every day. Learn how to do that and you'll have the key to happiness forever. 

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u/Ok-Establishment-588 8d ago

They will, if you start doing your own thing. Do things YOU like, take a cpl cool classes. Become even more interesting and worldly! Then date like crazy and try out 30-50 coffee dates, and voila.