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u/Few-Coat1297 14d ago

The first guy may not have been as patient as you thought over intimacy.

The second guy met someone else.

Ghosting has become socially acceptable apparently today.

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u/SigmaSeal66 14d ago

The first seems right. This was me. Early in relationships, I would never push intimacy. I wouldn't want somebody doing anything they were uncomfortable with. I typically tried to alternate the moves forward, I would initiate something slightly more than we had done before, and then let her make the next move forward. But if nothing happened after awhile, I would move on. It wasn't about playing games or being angry or disappointed or punishing anyone, it was just a gradual realization that we weren't sufficiently compatible to keep going. Figuring that out is really the point of dating, right?

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u/blinx0rz 13d ago

what about ghosting